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How should guys wear their long hair?
Sep 4th, 2003 at 5:31pm
 
I could never figure out why some guys go to all the trouble to grow their hair out and then wear it in a pony tail every day. I think that guys can wear their hair in many of the same long and loose styles that women do without appearing feminine. One example would be the way that Liam Neeson (http://www.space-debris.com/stwars_neeson_quigon.jpg) wore his in Star Wars I.

I notice that the posts on guys with long hair get a lot of views but few comments. What gives?
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Reply #1 - Sep 4th, 2003 at 5:37pm
 
Welcome Bill!

I agree that guys could wear their hair more different ways.  The men I know with hair that is to their shoulders or longer, admit they don't really know what to do with their hair.  I have tried to show them how to braid it and do a half-pony tail for some variety.  I guess we just need more guys willing to be brave and spend some time on their hair styles.

I can't say why there aren't more responses to the guys posts - maybe you can help change that trend?  8)
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Reply #2 - Sep 4th, 2003 at 7:47pm
 
I think that it is up to women to let men know what they like. What are your thoughts on the subject?
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Reply #3 - Sep 5th, 2003 at 3:12am
 
Hi Bill,

   I don't know that it's up to women to let men know what they like. I think a guy should wear his hair the way he likes. The same way I feel about women. I spent alot of my younger years wearing my hair long because the men in my life liked it that way. At one point I hacked it all off, only to discover I wanted my hair long for me. So that is why I have long hair. On the other hand, my 17 yo son has long hair. Longer than mine. His father(we are divorced) hates it. My son sees it as an expression of who he is. I encourage  him to have his hair the way he likes it...although I do encourage him to take good care of it and that he can vary the way it looks. I really like the Liam look too. A nice braid or multi-banded is nice too. He most often wears it pony-tailed I am sure because it is quick and easy.

I think that modern society has sort of a stigma about men having long hair. What do you think. How do people seem to react to your having long hair? I mean it common for people to tell a woman she has beautiful hair, what about a man? 

The one thing that I think is sad is when anyone has long hair and it is not cared for. 

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Reply #4 - Sep 5th, 2003 at 11:10am
 
Bill;
Believe me, I do tell people what I think  Lips Sealed But I also think that a person needs to be happy and comfortable with themselves.  I have longer hair because I want it.  It is nice that my hubby also likes it, but when I am no longer happy with my long hair, I will have it cut.  The same should be for you.  Smiley

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Reply #5 - Sep 6th, 2003 at 7:24am
 
To: BB & Jennak

I think that you misunderstood where I was coming from. As women, you are allowed to wear long hair. Men, on the other hand, are not--or at least most men are made to feel that that they may not wear their hair long. This is reinforced on TV, the movies and in many cases the work site. I think that this is one case where, no matter how much pressure society in general places on men, if women openly let men know that they like them in long hair, they will wear their hair long--and in whatever styles women prefer.

To give you an example of what I mean: I was out with a couple of friends of mine (all short hairs) a week or two ago and suddenly this really good looking woman sitting next to me starts making flattering comments to her girlfriends about my hair. She did so in such a way that all the guys that I was with could hear her. At first I wasn't sure what to think but the more that she went on the more I began to enjoy it. The guys that I was with were absolutely stunned. Believe me... There is nothing more that a guy with long hair (or that wants to wear his hair long) likes to hear than women telling him that they also like guys with long hair.

There are a whole pile of guys out there that would like to wear their hair long but are afraid to and it is women like you that can make the difference. I guess that what I'm trying to say here is that it will take much more than just a "do it if you want to" approach by women to get men to wear their hair long--It will take a "do it because I like it" attitude.

Thanks for your responses. I am really enjoying talking to you!

Bill

P.S. I have been working on a website on the subject. If you would like to check it out the URL is:

http://www.geocities.com/bill2003x



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Reply #6 - Sep 7th, 2003 at 11:54pm
 
Bill;
I understand your issues with how society reacts to your long hair.  With women over 40, society seems to think they should all cut their hair into short little bobs and color the heck out of it.  "Society" doesn't not necessarily accept an older woman with long hair, and certainly not with grey hair!!!!!

I think we all need to hear some encouragement from time to time, especially when we choose to be a bit off track from the mainstream.  Men with longer hair, and especially older men with longer hair has not been an accepted norm for a long time.  However, it is more acceptable now than it was in the 50's - so we've come a long way in that regards. 

I will continue to give compliments to anyone that has hair that catches my eye - including men with long hair. 

Looks like you have a great start on a web page for men - good luck!  I look forward to "chatting" with you more.
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Reply #7 - Sep 8th, 2003 at 6:38pm
 
Since I'm in my forties and have some gray hair too, I've decided to keep it around shoulder length or a bit longer. Any suggestions? Do you know of any sites that show pics of different types of layered styles?
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Reply #8 - Sep 24th, 2003 at 5:04pm
 
Hi, Bill.  Sorry I don't know of any web sites or places to refer you, but I do have some comments.

I have always liked longer hair on men, but especially if it looks tidy, which I think should be true of any gender.  Keeping ends trimmed and hair in good health is probably most important.  I agree with the previous comment made about unkempt hair - if it looks like someone is wearing a fright wig they should start over and take better care of it.

Yesterday in the grocery store I saw a young man with what I found to be a very attractive hair style.  It was braided, the end of the braid being about at the bottom of his ribcage, if that makes sense. (I am trying too hard NOT to say that it was longer than bra length and shorter than waist length, because it doesn't come across as a manly way to put something  Cheesy)  BUT rather than just a head full of hair in a braid, the long  portion was everything from each temple up to the crown, then back to the occipital knob.  The long hair was pulled back and the braid started fairly low.  The braid was nice and thick, there was plenty of hair in it.  Below the temples, and running along the sides then back to the area below the occipital knob, it was trimmed neatly, only long enough to not allow the scalp to show through.  I was actually surprised at how good this style looked. It had the effect of making him look not only handsome, but Well-Groomed, which always impresses.  It also appeared that if he chose to wear his hair down, one would not ever see that the bottom rear portion was trimmed - it would just be long and flowing and might even look very much like the Liam Neeson Jedi style.

My cousin used to have long hair, just BSL.  It was very fine in texture, but there was a lot of it, and it was a striking color - women pay BIG $$ to make ours look like his!  He would occasionally have me or another nearby female relation french braid it after he washed it.  Once it dried, he would finger rake it and it was one of the handsomest heads of hair I have ever seen.

More power to you guys!  When you get comments, remember that women used to hear the same sort of thing for wearing britches instead of dresses, and eventually society came around.  I think it's coming around to longer hair for men, also, and I think that is GREAT.
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Reply #9 - Nov 3rd, 2003 at 9:52pm
 
Lilly Dale:

Sorry to take so long getting back to you but I haven't checked in for a while.

It seems that guys are beginning to realize that they have options other than just a pony tale. I was out the other night and saw something that kind of surprised me. The manager of the restaurant that I was at not only had long hair but he was wearing it in a Jennifer Aniston style. Here is a link to the one he was wearing:

http://bohemians.org/~andy/jennifer.shtml

The funny thing is that he did not appear to look "feminine" as a result of it. I guess that now that guys are being accepted with long hair (although it is still not the norm) they are becoming more comfortable wearing it the way that they want.

Your comment about your cousin wearing a french braid is interesting. I'm not sure exactly where the line is between what a feminine style is and what is not--length is not even an issue as far as I'm concerned. Below is a link to a guys site that shows numerous ways that he wears his hair--braids, pony tails, straight down, updo's... I guess that the real issue here is: What looks good and what doesn't. Let me know what you think of the various styles. I am looking forward to comments from all the women at the board here on this one!

http://www.kolumbus.fi/leino.jarkko/Hair/index.html

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Reply #10 - Nov 4th, 2003 at 2:25pm
 
Wow, that guy's site shows more hairstyles  than many women's sites.  Some of his styles are too feminine for my tastes (on a guy), but who am I to judge?

I like the french braid, the banded pony tail, half up/half down, the twin braids that start low and behind the ears, single braid, the curly/wavy down, and just plain down on guys.  I'm undecided on a bun on a guy - I think a low bun, almost at the nape could work, but buns that are up higher on the head I'm not sure of.  The high pony tails and braids are too "little girl" for a guy (unless that is the look you want!)

Well that is just my 2cents worth.  Which styles do you like or want to try, Bill?
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Reply #11 - Nov 4th, 2003 at 9:29pm
 
Bikerbraid:

I don't know why but somehow I just knew that you would like the braids. As to which styles I would wear that would depend on what my girlfriend liked. I guess that I would wear any of them that she wanted around the apartment but I'm not sure if I would go out in all of them--it would depend on how much pressure she put on me.

As for my own likes... The straight down look is my favorite and I'm definately with you on the the twin braids that start low and behind the ears (both the long and short versions). I also like the high single pony tail and braid. I think that you're probably right about the high double pony tails and braids but could probably be talked into them. The French braid is not one that I would have picked out but your comments and Lilly Dale's make me think that I would be willing to try it. I would have no problem with the one on the 4th page (wearing the red shirt).

The various buns and other styles that are worn up high are not ones that I would go for. I don't like the banded pony tails either. I like long hair and want it to show. What do you think of the tails held back with the big barrettes? I think that they look okay.

Since I wear my hair in a layered cut most of these styles are out of the question although when its longer I can occassionally get a halfway decent pony tail.
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Reply #12 - Nov 5th, 2003 at 1:30pm
 
I think the big barrette can look OK if the barrette is simple.  A leather covered or wood barrette would look very nice holding back hair.  I think the thicker the hair, the better as far as the barrette goes.

You really should re-think the french braid - it is great for holding back hair of different lengths.  The tie off could be a piece of leather for a "manly" look.

A good way to get comfortable with new styles is to wear them around the house/apartment.  You will then find out how well the "hold" or stay in place and you get used to seeing yourself in the style, then one day you just forget and walk out of the house.

Which of those styles does your girlfriend like or would like to see you wear?
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Reply #13 - Nov 5th, 2003 at 10:35pm
 
We've never really talked about other styles, probably because with the layered cut that I have I don't think that I could really wear it any other way. I guess that the solution would be to let it get longer and give it a try. Do you have any idea how long the layers would have to be to make a decent French braid? I like keeping my bangs short do you think that makes a difference. Most of the French braids that I've seen seem to include the bangs.

I'm kind of surprised that nobody else has made any comments on this topic. From the counter, it seems that quite a few are checking it out.



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Reply #14 - Nov 6th, 2003 at 1:25am
 
I don't know why the others aren't checking this out.  I rather enjoy long hair on men and am happy to give you my feedback/opinion. (Of course, you can take it or leave it too!   Cheesy)

A french braid doesn't have to include the bangs.  I don't have bangs, so of course, all of my hair would be pulled back into the braiding.  I know french braids are used when growing out bangs as well.  A french braid can be started very close to the front hairline or as far back as you want.  If you have bangs to include, you would probably want to start at the top of the head or closer to the front hair line to make sure the hair gets braided in securely.

The only way you will know what will work is to try it!  Be creative!
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