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Do people tell you to cut it? (Read 120093 times)
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #60 - Apr 13th, 2007 at 10:40am
 
I have the bad habit of giving into urges to get my hair cut and I always get stick for it.  Luckily the women who matter to me in my life encourage those who can carry it off to wear their hair long and my MIL just turned 70 and has long beautiful hair and she won't give into her children's and other people's urgings to cut her hair off.  Good for her!  It's brown but I don't know if it's natural or dyed.  Doesn't matter, it looks great!  Her hair is healthy and thick, has some curl/wave to it and she can wear a variety of styles many women her age can only dream of. 

Hub doesn't care what I do as long as my hair doesn't get shorter than his Grin
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Reply #61 - Apr 13th, 2007 at 12:51pm
 
LOL - good advice to not go shorter than hubby!  (Mine is almost bald Shocked)

Your MIL must be quite the inspiration to grow out your hair - it sounds lovely!
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Reply #62 - Apr 14th, 2007 at 6:10pm
 
Bad and evil people will allways pick on you.


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Envy is what it is

Answer like this:Cut it?-So you want some don´t you?!
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #63 - May 6th, 2007 at 8:38pm
 
I havethe advantage of having friends who tell me i'm simply NOT allowed to cut my hair under any circumstances, which is great because I am my own worst enemy.
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #64 - May 6th, 2007 at 9:30pm
 
ooh, firefly that is lucky!
I guess I'm lucky too, as one of my good friends has almost tailbone hair, and my bestest best has taken our example and is growing hers out too...  I haven't had anyone tell me to cut it yet, but then, my grandmother doesn't know about how long it is, or my wish to make it longer. If she did, she'd start harping on me to cut it. *shrugs* she's like that.
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #65 - May 6th, 2007 at 9:38pm
 
Wow...those sound like some pretty supportive friends, saving you from yourself.  Grin 

Mine don't really care about my hair that much. Obviously, they might say something if I decided to go with a neon green military-style buzz cut, but they'd also probably get used to it even if they didn't care for it. So long as I'm happy with my hair, then that's what matters, right?

My parents do not support my long-haired aspirations at all and urge me to cut it short all the time. I'm pretty used to it. My father never holds back from telling me how pathetic it looks long, or how awful it looks in general, whenever the urge to say so strikes him. I guess he doesn't believe that anyone with fine, thin hair should grow it long. I understand his point of view, but long hair is part of who I am and I really can't do anything about its texture (which I inherited from him, actually). Besides, I think that if hair is kept healthy, it can look just fine when grown out long, regardless of texture. But I have my opinion, he has his. The difference is that I don't feel the need to force my opinion on him. *ahem*

Anyway, I do have a few family members who are fans of my hair. My sister, aunt and 2 of my cousins love how naturally soft it is and can't resist touching it whenever the urge strikes...which I really don't mind. I've even let my cousins style it on occasion.

But yeah, I have to battle the "cut it off" comments like a lot of folks. Some people just can't respect what other people like and aspire to...even if it's not hurting anyone.  Roll Eyes
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Reply #66 - May 9th, 2007 at 10:08pm
 
First of all I should say hello, I stumbled upon this site while looking for Edwardian hairstyles online and I have to say it is like coming home!! I have had long hair most of my life, from late primary school (after a disasterous shoulder length cut, which might I add I was tricked into - that is the last time my hair has been short) onwards - I am now 23 - and people ask me if/when I am going to cut it all the time. Mostly these comments come from extended family, aunts etc. very rarely from my parents or siblings. I did have one best friend at school though who was always on at me. She had gorgeous long, deep red wavy hair, but when we were 14 she chopped it off into a shoulder length flipped cut. I have to admit it suited her much better (although she did have beautiful hair previous) and it was perhaps the constant dyeing afterwards that did the real damage, but after that she was always nagging me to follow suit.

Nowdays, though, it is hairdressers that give me the most bother. Luckily I have found one, who works out a lovely boutique salon at her home, who will trim as little or as much off my hair as I wish, but I also highlight my hair and I go to a different salon for this. I suppose I should note that my hair fluctuates between mid back length to waist length in any given year and when I highlight it it is always the former, my trusted hairdresser having given it a good cut the day before. In that sense it is nowhere near as long as some of you have your hair, but it is quite long for where I live (Northern Ireland, although I go to college in Dublin and I haven't noticed anyone there either) indeed I rarely seen anyone with longer. Very short hair is all the rage here at the moment frequently in sharp, choppy styles with an unnatural mix of colours - definately not my thing and on some people I would hazard to say quite ugly.

Anyway when I go to this salon (my last visit was my last) the stylists are always pushing me to get a short cut, "oh I would like to do it this way, that way etc etc" (eh, excuse me whose hair is it?!), even when I have only booked in for a colour. On one occassion, where I had just had a good six inches off the day previous, one stylist was blow drying my hair and perked up (might I add to another stylist as if I wasn't there) "oh we are going to have to give this a cut to get all these dead ends off". What dead ends? Is the assumption then that all long hair must be in an awful state? That was nothing, though, compared to my last visit. Again I went in for a colour having had my hair cut the day before and as usual the stylist started up about I'd like to do this, that and the other with it etc. etc. (all involving very short cuts) when I politely said no she took a complete huff, told me that having hair "that long" was ridiculous and when (in response to her question as to why I have long hair) I said that I prefer long hair and it is nice too to be a bit different when so many people have short hair these days, she responded "gee thanks!!" Other than that throughout the course of her colouring my hair she was rude and on occassions downright nasty, so much so that I couldn't wait to get out of there and was glad when she left earlier and one of the junior stylists dryed my hair.

Having said all that (apologies for the long post) I wonder has anyone else had this type of experience with salons? Everytime I go I get a 'grilling' about why I have long hair and why I won't let them cut it short. In my younger years anytime I let such salons cut it when I said 2 inches I would come out with hair 6-7 inches shorter - did they think I didn't know what an inch was?


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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #67 - May 9th, 2007 at 10:38pm
 
Oh, yes, I've had stylists, and even friends with half a semester of cosmetology under their belts(!) tell me how much better a short haircut is, and how it would look so much better on me, and blah, blah blah. I have a photo of myself after going in for "a tiny trim" and ending up with chin length hair (I previously had past shoulder length). Often I think it isn't we who cannot measure, but supposed stylists. It's all the bleach fumes, I think.  Wink Shocked
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #68 - May 10th, 2007 at 12:10pm
 
Thus why I avoid salons at all possible cost.  Shocked

Nice to meet you, Emma.  Smiley
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Reply #69 - May 10th, 2007 at 1:11pm
 
Yeah, thats why I do my own trims.  I have gotten to the point where I dont allow anyone to try to coerce me into cutting my hair.  I just say no thanks, have a great day and go on with my business.  By the way, hello and welcome Emma.

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Reply #70 - May 10th, 2007 at 1:21pm
 
Nice to meet you too. I am so glad I found this site, I have been having a read round the forum since yesterday and I have already picked up so many great tips on taking care of long hair. I must admit I do commit a bit of a sin in colouring my hair, but I am currently letting my natural hair colour grow out again. I did the same last year and my natural hair was grown out as far as my shoulders. I am not a big fan of highlights to tell you the truth because each time you get them done you are colouring the same hair and with long hair you have that hair for so long it weakens it. Anyway on the aforementioned trip to the salon I wanted to try something different and discuss colour that would be kinder on my hair and that I would not have to colour over and over again. I wanted to go blonder and I am natural blonde already so I didn't think it was that much to ask, but clearly it was because they just went ahead and did the same highlights over again, despite my saying that wasn't what I wanted. Ahhh sigh ... if only I could find a long hair salon ...

Actually that, and this thread, reminds me when I was in first form at secondary school there was this girl that must have been about lower or upper sixth at the time (for those of you from the US I should probably explain, secondary school here is from 11 to 18. In the first form I would have been 11/12 depending on the time of year. Lower sitxth and upper sixth I think would be the equivalent of juniors and seniors at high school) and she had the most beautiful, shiny, waist length blonde hair. It was in excellent condition and I was in absolute awe of her, but towards the end of upper sixth she chopped it all off until it was just above her shoulders and I have always thought since that she lost a bit of her sparkle when she did. It turns out too that she was a natural brunette a she then let the colour grow out, which just proves to me now that I think of it that I certainly should be able to get a brighter colour and keep my hair in good condition.


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Reply #71 - May 11th, 2007 at 6:45pm
 
As a guy I think this has got to be the most interesting, fascinating and heartwarming thread I have ever read about a lady's genuine love of long hair, since I first started following and occasionally participating on long hair message boards back in about '97 !!

It's been so wonderful.... Truly.

So much to try to remember all at once that it'll take ages to work through  !!

The first thoughts. Do what you feel and follow your heart. If you love long hair then that's all you need.

Answerbacks as to why you should cut it, no matter how slyly guilt-ridden and phrased they might be (!), are I believe ridiculously easy !

"OK fair enough.  But first YOU tell me why YOU love short hair so much .....?"

Yadda, yadda.... running out of steam.....yadda...  Well that's what I THINK !! So there !

"Hey great ! That's exactly why I love long hair so much as well !!" Byeeee... Tongue Tongue

Welcome Emma ! Funny seeing Marilyn M again....  Wink

So much more to say but hey after 3 or 4 English pints.... Embarrassed Embarrassed

Seriously I have adored reading all of it and have now seen and understood what it's like from a lady's point of view for I think the first time ever. Again a very humble thank you.

Most guys do love long hair yes though few have the courage to admit it openly, especially to old friends for all the usual softie reasons!! If you want to know how this long haired loving guy feels see my first intro to LLSalon on about Jan 12th or so.

As you say it goes so verrrrry deep, just as much this side of the fence too.

Cadie  Wink

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Reply #72 - Jun 22nd, 2007 at 4:01pm
 
On wednesday this week, I was at the library and I happened to pick up the newspaper.  The front page article featured an 11 year girl cutting off 19 inches of hair for locks of love.  As I was reading the article, an older man comes up behind me and says "you are a candidate for that too!"  I politely said "NO".  He said, "why not"!  I said "NO".  He said "not even to help out someone else?"  I said "NO".  Boy, was he ever trying to put me on a guilt trip.  Some people dont get it even if you take the time to explain it to them.
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Reply #73 - Jun 22nd, 2007 at 5:28pm
 
Ugh, Debr.

You should have told him that your prefer to make monetary donations to legitimate charities that will actually use what you give them rather than throw it out or pocket it for themselves.
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Reply #74 - Jun 23rd, 2007 at 4:49pm
 
Hi Angelspun,  sometimes I get into situations and dont know what to say at the time, then later I come up with the " I shoulda saids".  Most people are unaware of what they maybe suggesting.  He really had no idea abot lol.  He thought it was a good idea to cut off my hair.  Poor man!  He was clueless.  So I let it be.  Have a great day.


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