Hi Ladies,

Okay here's the thing.  Don's sons' mother is dying.  Poor thing has brain cancer and had a stroke lastnight.  We know it only a matter of time and she will pass away.  Don will be going to the funeral even thought his relationship with the lady is long over ( this was 24 years ago). Thing is should I be there too?  I want to be there to comfort his son but there just might be a war as the ladies sister hates Don with a passion.  His son's mother took Chris away from him when the boy was three and would not allow him to see him.  Last year was the first time they met in 20 years.  Now there realtionship is rekindled and doing well.  So my question is...do I go?  

Thanks in advance
Lisa

I support bikerbraid's advice.  I really think that is the safest and most considerate way to handle this.  This way you also avoid any awkwardness and if Don leaves right after the service, there's less chance of him having a confrontation with his ex-SIL.  That would be a shame for everyone else, Don and actually also for his ex-SIL.