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Message started by drummergirl08 on Dec 4th, 2005 at 6:22pm

Title: pressure
Post by drummergirl08 on Dec 4th, 2005 at 6:22pm
I cut about 8 inches off my hair.  Looking back I think I was pressured to do it.  They made me feel my hair was ugly, actually, I thought it looked like a princess' hair would.  Do you feel this pressure?

Title: Re: pressure
Post by juri on Dec 4th, 2005 at 6:53pm
I'm sorry to hear about that, Drummergirl. It's rather sad that people made you dislike your hair; cutting off 8 inches must have been somewhat traumatic. It's hard not to be susceptible to outside pressures when you're in your teens, but I hope you don't let anyone make you feel bad about your hair again. Its your hair, not theirs, and how you feel about is the most important. (((hugs)))

Title: Re: pressure
Post by bikerbraid on Dec 4th, 2005 at 6:58pm
Peer pressure in high school is the toughest. We can tell you to just ignore them, but I understand how difficult that can be.  At some point you will have to decide what you want and stick by it regardless of what others may say.

Good luck!

Title: Re: pressure
Post by Angel Spun on Dec 5th, 2005 at 12:44am
My parents have tried to guilt me into cutting my hair short countless times. They still do it.

But I have always known (and usually done) what was right for me, so I don't feel any "pressure" to give into their wishes.
   I also know that their opinions about hair come from what the media tells them: People with fine hair should wear it very short, no one past age 30 looks good with long or straight hair, highlights & colour are a must, etc.

The only thing they succeed in doing is degrading me for who I am & what I do, which is nothing new. I've always just sort of done my own thing & not worried whether it fit into anyone else's ideal. We can't all be Sex-And-The-City fashion victims, right?  ;)

Title: Re: pressure
Post by khrome on Dec 5th, 2005 at 10:18pm
I used to feel that type of pressure.  But after you cut it a couple times, and you get a feel for what YOU think looks good on you, I think you develop more of a self-confidence for what you want to do.  For instance, now that you've gone short, if people tell you to cut it again (after it's long again) you can just way "been there, done that!"  :)


Title: Re: pressure
Post by PreciousLocks on Dec 5th, 2005 at 10:33pm
I think we've all had people make us feel that way, and sometimes it isn't "a person" so much as the fashion and fad culture.  I have toyed with short-long-short-long so many times.  Even decided in my 40's that I was now too old for long hair and it would be short for the rest of my life :'(
Well, a few years later I decided that's a bunch of bunk -- especially after a few friends, older than I, grew at least BSL hair and look great.  
Some of us take longer than others to realize the pressure to conform is stupid ;) ::)

Title: Re: pressure
Post by brunette85 on Oct 13th, 2007 at 5:50pm
when i was in high school most girls had long hair. the pressure came with it being straight. girls that had beautiful curly hair started straighning their hair. most of them said it was what everyone else did so they did it to. though most wanted to keep it the way they had it, they conformed anyway. they didnt want to be different. if you ask me different is what makes the world go round. if everyone was the same and looked the same it'd be a pretty boring place.

just do what makes YOU happy. cause at the end of the day you have to live with the hair you have so make sure its what YOU want not what EVERYBODY ELSE wants.

Title: Re: pressure
Post by brunette85 on Oct 13th, 2007 at 5:58pm
when i was in high school most of the girls had long hair. the pressure for them came with the stick straight look. some had beautiful curly hair, but were pressured to look a certain way to be considered "pretty". most started straighning their hair and only did it to fit in. even though it wasnt what they truly wanted. also they were afraid to be different. i told them its not about being different its about being you. good example my mother uses alot. if everyone jumps off the brooklyn bridge does that mean you should too?

at the end of the day its your hair. if you arnt happy with how it looks change it to what will make you happy not what will make everyone else happy. chances are they arnt happy with thier hair and are trying to use you to make themselves feel better.

in any case be strong and make sure when you make a decision about your hair its what you truly want.

take care

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