Hi everyone !  

I’ve only just discovered that unfortunately TLHS is closing down which is a real shame as I'd visited there on and off for years.

Since then I've been looking at several of the other sites people on there had been recommending, until I finally came to bikerbraid’s posting and so onto here. I really hope it's ok for guys to join bb (?) because I've just had a long look through and it feels just right !!  

However the unexpected cream on the cake and what really sealed it all was the Hair Schtick's page ! I loved it !! It's such a rarity ! I’ve never seen any long hair site with a page just for laughs !

Wonderful !!

Best wishes

Arcadian

Of COURSE it's ok for you to be here!    Glad to see you here.  Yes, there are other guys here - they aren't always real vocal, but they are around. 

Welcome and I hope to see ya around a lot more!

Thank you everyone for the welcome  

Always a bit too lazy I'm afraid with TLHS, probably still be there otherwise  ! I’m glad in a way though as so much has changed elsewhere since I joined in about ’97 that coming here is very refreshing indeed !

Hairwise ? Nobody’s ever asked that before ! What a strange feeling, I mean can you imagine that happening on TLHS ? Must admit I never had the courage before joining TLHS to grow my own hair, but it was a real release when I finally did in about ’99 as up till then I was mostly afraid of the usual cynical half smiles and raised eyebrows. Since then I haven’t cut it apart from small trims which all sounds good, but as it unfortunately always stops growing at about mid back (why I’ve no idea !) I've never needed to do anything, and as it’s always tied in the (traditionally acceptable ?) low ponytail style I forget it’s there most of the time. It’s great in the summer to feel it swishing around my back though, and definitely very useful when trying to reach that constant irritating itch between the shoulder blades !

I picked up a few hair tips along the way but aside from using organic Jojoba shampoo and rinsing in cold water that’s about it. But unfortunately I’ve no idea if it’s any better than before because I can’t remember what it was like to begin with  !

Whilst overall it’s the general love and fun of long hair I enjoy, I think the fundamental reason is long hair on any woman, young or old, is and always has been that it's so captivatingly beautiful. The number of times I’ve nearly rammed the car in front are endless ! It's always taken my breath away and always causes instant weak-kneed reverence I like to think it’s Mother Nature’s most wonderful gift possible to Woman, and her biggest heartache to Man. Designer built perhaps  

I don’t know, I seem to have been so through so many emotional highs and lows about it all since about 15, and sometimes even still today nearly 40 years on, that I've simply accepted it. I know there's nothing I can ever do about it, probably wouldn't want to if I could either ! And age with long hair doesn’t bother me now one bit as it used to. So what if long hair on us older folks, especially ladies, is sometimes looked at askance ? It’s what you feel inside that as always matters. I know I will forever delight in feeling that lovely kick in my stomach, just as much now when I suddenly catch that entrancing, swirling motion out of the corner of my eye as when I did the first time I went bright crimson i.e. when my first “She ACTUALLY smiled at me !!" happened !    I now know too - ahem - she probably knew exactly what I was feeling though I doubt the awful amounts of turmoil I was really going through ! But then why should she or any lady ever need to know ? It’s there so why not grow it ?

Yet it has always puzzled me why, and I’ve since gathered it's possibly been the same with many other young long hair loving boys as well, I was so wretchedly shy and pathetically useless to begin with all those years ago. I have longed so many times since then that I could have known instinctively what to do when a long haired lady suddenly appeared in front of me.

Perhaps a few centuries ago things might have been romantically different though knowing my luck I’d still get a very unromantic clout from whoever she happened to be with ! And I seriously doubt things can ever change either though it does make you wonder what might be the case in the future ? Sign language plus a white flag from a minimum of 20 feet away ? “Please it’s perfectly ok. I’m quite harmless. I just wanted you to know before you come any closer that you and your hair are so utterly beautiful that I will faint” !

If only I knew then what I know now or at least there’d been the Internet around ! Would it have been any different ? Or are all the young long haired loving boys of the future always going to be doomed in the same way ? You know, the usual story when you always seem to be the only guy anywhere who loves long haired ladies, yet which only serves to isolate you even more from everyone else, especially on those nights you're out with other young guys.

But of course and most unfortunately it’s these very same passions that I clearly remember you have to instantly shut off and close down asap as they always risk coming across so very dangerously wrong.

At least if nothing else the Internet has been quite a life saver for me, though how it will ever begin to break down these seemingly impossible barriers of potential misunderstandings between genuine long haired loving ladies and ditto men I’ll never know. Sadly.

However the best prize above all for me throughout the whole of this new InterNet period without doubt has been the slow and gradual realisation that many long haired loving ladies amazingly seem to feel just the same deep passions inside about long hair as I do. That in fact there is no separation after all  

A knowledge that has now become very heartwarming and special indeed.

Thank you Ladies.

Lol !

Yes I guess it really has been pent up for a very long while indeed so my humble apologies ! Feels really good to have got it off my chest at last though so thanks everyone else too  

I think you're right bikerbraid, it was what I was trying to say that "we are not alone". Believe me it really is nice and heartwarming to come in out of the cold after so many years.

It was probably because TLHS was my first board ever I felt I would never be able to unwind on there at all. And it was in this mood that I read your last posting about a message board "that is not running at a rapid pace" that struck a chord. A faint sense of relaxation and calmness which is what I'm now finding on here already. Less highs and lows I think too which is a relief ! What a shame though that all those messages on TLHS over the years slowly disappeared off the bottom, gone for good.

Great ! And now that I've at last turned over my new leaf really start to relax...

Very interesting what you said about "Obviously the issues are different for you than for women, but in some ways they are similar to older women". Do you mean that as long haired ladies get older there's some sort of a change in attitude towards long hair ? Or towards men....or ?

I'm really beginning to feel at home already !!

Sincerest thanks

Arcadian

I'm alittle late,but better late than never!!   welcome to Longlocks!!