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Apr 18th, 2004 at 8:59am
 
My mother got her hair permed and cut 2 inches long. She suggested I do the same with my "ratty" hair. My hair is not ratty in any way. It's wavy and shiny. She makes these hateful comments all the time. It's not what she says it's how she says it. Her other favorite is " women your age shouldn't try to wear their hair long" and "you really would look nice if you would cut your hair it would flatter your chubby face more."  On the other hand I receive complements on my hair from my neices and they tell me not to cut it that it is a part of me....Aunt Angie with the long hair. My grand daughter winds her little hand up in it when she naps, it gives her comfort while she is away from her mommy. My mom is just jealous....and spiteful. I just wish she would stop saying things that are so negative.
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Reply #1 - Apr 18th, 2004 at 3:54pm
 
It is always hard to hear such statements from someone you would expect unconditional love.  Have you tried telling her how much it hurts when she says those things?  In any case, you know you can choose how to wear your hair.  It obviously gives you satisfaction and you see others appreciating it as well.
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Reply #2 - Apr 18th, 2004 at 3:55pm
 
oh, I dont think I can give you much advice in this area, except that you should keep your hair the way you want it.  you hair is yours, and you didnt grow it to please anyone.
                                i hope your situation will better,

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Reply #3 - Apr 18th, 2004 at 5:22pm
 
why people think that as you grow older your hair must get shorter is beyond me! im only 19 but i plan to keep my long hair
FOREVER
. even though my aunt said that women over a certain age look terrible with long hair and should cut it short when the grey hairs start coming through....ive no idea what planet she comes from...!  Roll Eyes  Sad
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Reply #4 - Apr 18th, 2004 at 6:02pm
 
Clearly, your mother and your aunt exist in some alternate reality where grown women are allowed to have any hairstyle they want, as long as it is short, colored, and permed.  Tongue

You are 19 and your mother thinks you are too old to have long hair? That's amazing. It's the ideal age to start taking care of your hair and developing your personal style.

By the time you're my age, you'll have hair that's well past the floor if you keep this up.
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Reply #5 - Apr 18th, 2004 at 9:30pm
 
"You are 19 and your mother thinks you are too old to have long hair? That's amazing. It's the ideal age to start taking care of your hair and developing your personal style.  "

no, no...my mother loves my long hair (Anjy's mum doesnt think the long hair is a good idea)
my aunt likes my hair....she just doesnt think my dream to be a long haired old lady is very nice!

"By the time you're my age, you'll have hair that's well past the floor if you keep this up. "

i hope so!!! well...maybe i'll keep it trimmed to ankle length so i dont trip over it and young children and small animals dont get caught in it!!  <<<imagine combing that out of your hair at the end of the day!!  Cheesy  Cheesy
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Reply #6 - Apr 18th, 2004 at 9:51pm
 
Something else I remember... when my Aunt Dee had her hair long in her 30's my mother used to tell me she looked rediculous because she was always playing with her curls. I thought she looked nice.  Undecided
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Reply #7 - Apr 19th, 2004 at 1:18am
 
My mother used to say stuff like this to me sometimes. It really hurts. Of course, it was the opposite because in my family's religion women aren't supposed to cut their hair, and I wanted to when I was a teenager, but it hurts the same anyway. Just realize that your mother probably as some issues to work out about it and it isn't brought on by anything you did. It also doesn't mean she doesn't love you.
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Reply #8 - Apr 19th, 2004 at 9:43am
 
My Granny (currently age 94) has had long hair, past her tailbone, for as long as I can remember. In fact, she hasn't had it cut since WWII - she had to be frugal so her cute, '30s bob got grown out! Even though she always wears it up, I always loved it best when she unpinned her hair and brushed it, or sat in the sun to dry it.

So anyone who says you're too old (or too anything) for long hair is just jealous and unnecessarily spiteful. Just think of my cool Granny!  Smiley

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Reply #9 - Apr 21st, 2004 at 6:30am
 
Kate your granny sounds wonderful.... that's what I want... to have my grandchildren remember me for my unique qualities
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Reply #10 - Apr 21st, 2004 at 9:53pm
 
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i hope so!!! well...maybe i'll keep it trimmed to ankle length so i dont trip over it and young children and small animals dont get caught in it!!  <<<imagine combing that out of your hair at the end of the day!!  Cheesy  Cheesy

Imagine combing your hair at the end of the day and saying, "So that's where little Johnnie went!"  Or "...the dog..." or "...my purse..." or "...my keys..."

Hee hee.

Anjy, stay the course.  Naysaysers just don't get it, and I don't think they want to.  They don't have the drive or determination to do it, so they don't have long hair, which they could have, if they decided to do it.  It's that simple.

So it's up to us to try to convince them... Cheesy

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Reply #11 - Mar 12th, 2005 at 6:06am
 
Some of the most beautiful hair I've ever seen was on a 50-something lady - BEAUTIFUL silvery gray, always done in a braid.  Then there's my mother, who keeps hers Bra-length.  She's 54, and it makes her look younger and perkier, but by no means immature or silly.  She works as an ER doctor, so it makes it easy for her to keep it out of her way at work, and she can co-ordinate her scrub tops to her scrunchies  Smiley

For my part, I think it's a good deal prettier to keep a well-kempt length than these curly head-helmet cuts that ladies seem compelled to get when they hit a certain age.  You know, the ones shorn about the neck and permed to poof on the top.  It just seems to emphasize the inevitable sagging of the jowl and does nothing to soften lines.

My great-grandmother lived to 108.  She had GORGEOUS long hair, right up to the end.  Milky white, and she'd do it up in one of those gibson girl buns.  I hope mine looks half so pretty when I get there Wink  I guess I'm just lucky in my relatives... they like cooing over my mane at family gatherings more than bugging me to 'upgrade' it.  Wish I could say the same for some other folks...
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Reply #12 - Mar 12th, 2005 at 6:21am
 
Well, I for one would like to have an elegant, gray bun when I grow old!  Cheesy My mother knows about it, and commented it (not exactly rudely, but not very approvingly either). I was quite firm with her- but different approaches work with different people.

In any case, it's your hair, and it doesn't have to please anyone but you Cheesy . If you like it long, then that's all the reason you need for wearing it long  Cheesy .
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Reply #13 - Mar 12th, 2005 at 10:07pm
 
Definite agreement here about long gray or white hair in buns or braided, or whatever! My great-grandmothers were the only relatives I remember with long hair.
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Reply #14 - Mar 13th, 2005 at 12:14am
 
I absolutely love hair that is white or gray.  From looking at my aunts I will probably just get  enough gray to make my hair look dull, but oh well.
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