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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #15 - Jul 16th, 2004 at 6:34pm
 
Although that may be true, but clearly not categorically true, not all women do things based on how men would like it.  I think that would be just as silly as cutting it because someone suggested it to you.

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i wonder if all the short haired "style" loving women out there know that men actullay LOVE long hair on a woman? my boyfriend tells me all the time to never cut my hair...and ive heard tonnes of guys say they find long hair very attractive.

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Reply #16 - Jul 16th, 2004 at 7:04pm
 
very true
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Reply #17 - Jul 17th, 2004 at 1:11am
 
*Alert:Very Sensitive Topic!*

I know you have all talked about people and relatives alike telling you to get your hair cut.  This coming August I will be in high school and in September turning 14, my mom says I'm getting older (turning 14 is old now?) and perhaps I would look better with a midback or shoulder-length style (my face shape is best with long hair), my dad says my hair is beautiful but if I cut 4 or 5 more inches it would be easier, my sisters always ask when I'm going to cut it, and my friends either say I should give it locks of love or be fashionable and cut it.  AAARRRRGGGHHHH! Shocked

I can deal with my friends but my family tends to know how to hurt my feelings.  How do I not let this bother me?



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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #18 - Jul 17th, 2004 at 1:57am
 
They are jealous of your beautiful hair. That's all. It gives them feelings of inferiority.
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #19 - Jul 17th, 2004 at 2:27am
 
At first I thought maybe if I use one of ya'lls tips (I used- "Why do you need some?"), but then they said "no not any of your hair", ugh-grrr to my "friends".
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #20 - Jul 17th, 2004 at 5:22pm
 
the best way to not let negative comments affect you is to just ignore them, i know its not easy but after a while you do grow a thicker skin....quicker than you realise. you have to learn to just laugh at the stupidity of the comments and stand your ground. its horrible when its your family but maybe they do keep on cos they see its affecting you, and they think you'll cave in and say "okay, cut it then". DONT GIVE UP!!! your long haired brothers and sisters are here to comfort you and spur you on ((((****HUG****)))) your skin will get thicker and the comments will eventually just roll off....trust me.....ive had to learn to do the same thing...but not about hair, i dress in a non-conventional way so i get insults from family and complete strangers. although my parents dont comment anymore cos i didnt give in and stood my ground.

your hair is beautiful...and its YOURS. remember that...and good luck  Kiss
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #21 - Jul 17th, 2004 at 9:29pm
 
How do you handle yourself when people want to constantly touch your hair, especially total strangers?  I try to be gracious, but I have to confess I find it very annoying.  You would never see someone reach up and touch a stranger's short hair!
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #22 - Jul 19th, 2004 at 1:34am
 
Drummergirl - it is always difficult when the ones you love try to control in ways that are uncomfortable for you.  I'd suggest that when they make such comments just reply that at this time you are still enjoying having hair of your length and don't really see any reason to change that.  Then move the conversation to something else.

Finchquilts - I agree, I am uncomfortable when people touch my hair without permission.  I have been know to say to strangers "Oh, I'm sorry, let me get my hair out of your way", then move my hair out of their reach.
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Reply #23 - Jul 19th, 2004 at 8:52pm
 
drummergirl, I will be a high school senior next year and am in the same position concerning my hair and my family. It's unfortunate when even your relatives can't accept you as you are; but stand strong, remember to love them anyway, and know that you aren't alone! It also helps to remind yourself how much money you're saving from all the extra styling products, coloring, haircuts, etc. etc. etc.  Wink

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I agree, I am uncomfortable when people touch my hair without permission.  I have been know to say to strangers "Oh, I'm sorry, let me get my hair out of your way", then move my hair out of their reach.


What about when someone hates having your hair touch them? Whenever I'm standing near my sister and my hair brushes against her by accident, she gets all disgusted and tells me to get it out of her way. Okay, fine; but really, it's just hair. It's not dangerous. I think she thinks I never shower or something.  Roll Eyes
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Reply #24 - Aug 19th, 2004 at 1:56pm
 
I used to have long hair - I could sit on it - then I gave in to my friends and my mum saying I'd look good with it cut - and I got it cut shorter and shorter.  I'm growing it back now, and it's mid-length, just touching my waist - and now I can say - well yeh, I tried it short for a year or two, but after all the work I put into it to grow it this long, and I'm still growing it, I don't want to cut it again!  Though I am giving in to my mum and getting my fringe cut back in.
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #25 - Nov 12th, 2004 at 2:09am
 
Drummergirl, i come from a large family, and part of the way familys relate is that they criticize each other!  Just think, if we didn't have parents and siblings to make comments and point out our bad table manners(haha), where would we be? Grin  That doesn't mean it's right for them to tell you what to do with your hair.  I understand how annoying and insensitive that must seem.  But, people who are close to us usually criticize because they think they know what's best, and they want to help us be the best that we can be!  I realize I don't know your family, but their comments probably come from an honest (if pesky!) desire to help you!  if you don't want their advice, try saying, "thanks for trying to help me with my hair, but I really like it the way it is, even if it's not fashionable (or whatever)".  Be firm (yet polite:)) when you say this, and they will probably be like, "Well, okay then, whatever", and drop it.
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #26 - Nov 12th, 2004 at 6:52am
 
Drummergirl - it's been a few months - any improvement in the "unsolicited hair comments" department? 

As I've mentioned before - I've always had long hair.  All through high school I got the same comments - why haven't you tried this 'do' or that 'do'... The Farrah look was in back then - which was rather "long" compared to more recent fashions - but still, the never ending comments  "well meaning", of course  Undecided 

After highschool, my sister and 2 of my 4 first cousins became (group Shocked gasp) hair stylists.  They spent the better part of 2 years doing every imaginable evil to their hair - all in the name of schooling.  My sister had at one time or another: fuscia, lavender, and white hair - the colors themselves were not the "bad" thing - just with constant coloring, her overprocessed hair was thin, straw-like and dreadful. (This from the girl who as a senior in highschool had some of the thickest golden blond hair I'd ever seen - she wore it below shoulder length - and her pony tail took two hands to hold, it was so thick ... after 'beauty' school - once she realized what damage she'd caused - and tried to regain her 'locks', it never again had the same lustre, color, or thickness.  After it all - her hair is probably 1/2 as thick as it was previously.  Such a shame. 

The REAL family comments started after they'd all graduated, and I think they made bets with one another as to who could get me to cut my hair first...  More than 20 years later - guess who won?  ME!

After all these years it has become light and playful jesting, with no real thought of causing me distress or getting me to change my mind - no one still believes I'll ever cut my hair - (Though I think my cousin had palpatations when I asked her to do the 5 inch trim this summer - to finally do away with the last evidence of an old perm).

Long hair is part of my persona.
No one will ever change that - and it's kind of nice - after all of these years - that they've all given up trying.  So.... you may have time to bide until those around you will respect that:
yes, you really DO know what you like - and -
no, they're not going to change your mind with a few petty comments.

Hang in there!
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #27 - Nov 12th, 2004 at 9:36am
 
people never told me to cut mine. relatives will usually whine it's too dark and that it gives me a severe look (have you ever heard such crap!!). i have to note that the one that whines the most has a daughter who looks like an absolute moron with her bleached + highlighted hair: she has very red   cheeks, a fake tan (just imagine the great combination ahumm) and then this weird color, i dunno what it is, something pale with highlights for which she pays a 100€ a month ... spoken of people who can't see what color fits  Roll Eyes

my mother warned me before i wanted to cut it some 4 or 5 years ago: men prefer it long (dunno if they also prefer blond though, mine certainly doesn't).
even classmates (all short-haired, who usually say how annoying long hair must be (poor them, they should know better!) ) told me not to do it, but well, all through primary and highschool and then uni i had 6-year patterns, every 6 years i'd just feel the need for change. i think having found good info o n doing updo's hopefully will prevent me from cutting it all off again  Cheesy
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #28 - Nov 12th, 2004 at 12:24pm
 
Here's one for your horror stories...

When I was in high school, and my hair had reached waist length, I got lots of compliments from friends, and snide looks from the popular girls.  But!  I think my hair did the charm on some guys, I got asked to a lot of social funcions.  (Not dates, social functions.  My parents believed if we "group dated" we'd get into less trouble)  Embarrassed  It worked though!

At any rate, one night when I was out with this particular fellow, we were all (20 or so) sitting down to get a quick bite at Steak N Shake before catching a movie.  Well, during the normal course of conversation, my fellow leaned over and proceeded to tell me he adored girls with short hair.  Mmmhmmm.  I asked him why he even asked me out, and then he said "to talk you into cutting your hair.  It would be so lovely."  *GASP!*  How ridiculously rude!!

Needless to say, I didn't go out with him again.

The biggest problem I have nowadays are guys trying to touch my hair.. I've been in several bar situations where I'll go up to the bar to get a drink (my hair down) and some fellow will come up behind me and immeadiatly thinks he can stroke my hair.. "Whatcha drinking, darling?"  Trust me boys, we don't like that!  I need a certain amount of personal space, especially if I've never met you before, and besides.. I DO NOT know what's been on those hands!
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Re: Do people tell you to cut it?
Reply #29 - Nov 12th, 2004 at 12:48pm
 
What a weird fella!  Tongue
In my experience, I've always known more guys to love LONG hair. Very few that like short...and those that do generally tended to get together with lassies that already had short hair.

And as regards strange fellas touchin my hair....I don't think I would be so forgiving.  Angry

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