Hi!  My hair, for those that don't know me, is very fine and thin 2afi.  I have chemical colour on all but 4" of roots which I'm trying to grow out.  My hair has gotten much wavier since I've found the boards, from straightish frizz.
I only shampoo my hair once a week in winter and twice a week in summer.( I rotate between Aubrey organics and Jessicurl right now).
I CO or just wet it down the rest of the time. I do a pre-shampoo oil with Euro Organic oil every shampoo and oil with jojba a lot.
My hair is BSL- has been about that for awhile-b/c I'm slowly getting rid of bleached fryed ends, then I will not cut for a long time.
Someone told me you shouldn't wet your hair every day as it weakens the hair shaft.
But my hair looks icky if I don't , even in an updo.
I'm thinking about trying to wet my hair less and less.
I like to wet it down and then scrunch in some aloe vera gel to define my waves.
Should I just wet down once a week?-then my hair looks all fly away by the end of the week.
I live in the upper midwest-very cold climate right now.
What do you'all lovely long haired ladies and hansome gentlemen do?

I don't wet my hair every day, because hair gets the most fragile when it's in that state.  I try to avoid it because my hair has been colored.  If you're just dampening it to get the hair to lay down flat, that should be fine -- just don't go outside in the freezing cold with wet/damp hair.

Thanks for your replies!
I can only wish my hair was as long as yours, BB!
I haven't noticed any damage from wetting my hair down every day- Especially since I shampoo twice or even once a week.
Now that my hair is longer I want to avoid as much damage as possible.

Running water through your hair will not damage it.

Pulling & raking on it with combs, brushes, hands, etc. while it's wet will.

My hair is so oily genetically that I must wash it every day. The results are horrific if I don't.

At the very least, I use a light conditioner & stand under the running water for a looooong time.

I feel your pain about the 2-tone hair effect. Mine was that way for about a year while I grew my roots out. Once they reached 6 inches in length, I cut off the dyed remnants & have been dye-free ever since. I hope your hair recovers as well. 

Should I not be combing with a wide-tooth comb when my hair is wet after stepping out of hte shower? I thought this was better than combing when the hair is dry. Please let me know, I am terrified now to do the wrong thing and be harming my hair when I actually think Im not.. or vice versa.
Thanks so much!

I mist my hair all winter to add moisture. I use conditioner and water or infusium 23. Now I have coconut oil and am going to be using it on the ends , then put it in a bun.Sometimes I wet a scrunchie and put it around the bun to keep moisture around my hair. Winters are hard here in Chicago IL.

Hi Tara, I have lived in Chicago all my life so i guess my hair is used to the crazy weather changes. I had the air conditioning on 5 days ago and today I am wearing a coat an  have the heat on! My hair is pretty strong so luckily it has grown to 50" as of now. I wear buns most of the time and they are really getting heavy at this point. Moisture on the hair adds to the weight too.I just use 6 smaller clips to try and distribute the weight. I do take the bun out every few hours and re-position the clips.( a good time to mist it) I have a good pretzel bun I made and also like the figure eight bun a lot.Im working on more buns that distribute weight. I have lots of buns posted at the yahoo group BUNS and also have a bun page on my personal hair page.
http://www.jjjlonghairphotopage.zoomshare.com/3.html
Without buns i could never survive in Chicago!