I still can't carry over the quote,so Maggie I'm sorry to infringe on your journal........Angel LOL!! I think I can totally agree with you about the girl thing,especially "dealing" with the male's typical nonsense today!!!  Ack!!!

Oh, my dear Maggie...

Split ends are awful.    And as much as I know you want me & everyone else here to tell you not to cut, sadly, I think that may be your best option.

Remember the very first rule in Rapunzel's Ultimate Guide To Growing Long Hair?

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Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but splits will travel further up the hair shaft if they're not cut off. And indeed, what's the point of having long hair if it's not healthy?

Perhaps the reason your hair usually stops growing at this stage is because this is when the ends start to split and get neglected.
    Yes, unfortunately, I must recommend that you cut all of the split ends off. Hair should actually be trimmed before it splits. Like when the ends start to dry out.

I used to have the same problem in high school, actually. I didn't take very good care of my hair & it was totally splitsville. So one year I just cut it very short. Actually, I've done this a few times, and eventually there were no more splits to cut off.
    After the last major hack job, I vowed to take much better care of my hair, including regular trims...and I haven't had a single split since. 

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Sorry to hear about frizz troubles, Maggie.  Mine tends to do some weird things, as Louisiana tends to have 100% humidity all summer long... 

The good thing, though, is that eventually your hair gets used to it... and then you go someplace where the weather's not so bad and you have to wonder.. "when did my hair get so flat?!" 

Yup, vee liked zee peenk panser movie, vuz very funny!  

Man, I've got quite the headache today, I am so stressed out, beyond stressed out, more like ready for my nervous breakdown!  Here's how my day yesterday went:

Woke up to the phonecall of my tenant saying that she was just warning me that more of the dilapidated building next door has fallen down into our yard.  Remember the one with all the pigeons living in it, the one I've been pulling teeth from the borough to take action on?  Yup, that's the one.  So with all this rain we've had, it's leaking through the roof and causing it to sag, which is....well, it's just collapsing, brick by brick.  One of the windows imploded and some more bricks fell down, so I had to deal with the town mayor and some other board members all day yesterday.  They now say that they are ordering the owners to have it demolished...but it seems they've skipped town and aren't able to find them.  Grrrrreat, just fantastic!    So, not only is it falling down, but now with the missing window, it's already turned back into a pigeon coupe again, oh my head!

Closing time comes at the shop and I load up with all my deliveries that need to be made.  Because of all the rain and flooding what would normally take me 45 min. to complete took me nearly two hours, I was a nervous wreck driving through all those puddles (more like freakin' ponds), so by the time I was done my nerves were about shot.

I then stopped to visit with my mother for her birthday, we had cake and coffee together, that part was nice. 

I was then heading home, nerves shot, headache, and exhausted.  Now, let me explain that we've been having a problem with the drainage system that was put in our road from day 1, even during normal rains.  What happens is that they placed the drain on the road directly above our property, and they led the drainage pipe so that is all outlets onto our land, so we are getting massive amounts of water outletting on our land, ruining it and swamping our septic field.  We try to block the drain and re-direct the water down to the next drain (which also lets out on our property, but not near our home), and we've been on the borough for four years now to please fix the problem.  Okay, having said that, I come home to see that all of our rocks have been moved yet again.  There is a borough worker that lives right up the road, he must watch for us to do this, then he undoes it all, this is on a personal level he's doing this, and I have no idea why.  So, I stop the van, get out into the water and mud, restack the rocks, and get back in.  Well, I guess he was watching out for me and comes flying down the road waving his hand at me to get out of the van, at this point, I'm more than "happy" too.  He's messing with the wrong chick at the wrong time  .

He begins picking all my rocks up and chucking them into the woods, telling me that he's going to have me cited if I do it again.  Well, I can't repeat 99% of what I had to say back to him, let's just say it was like the spirit of a true raving lunatic possessed my body, I was cursing worse than a sailor, pointing, yelling, he really should have just left my rocks alone!  Basically what it boiled down to, was that he was telling me that the drain was not causing a problem, it was not putting water on our land, yet he refused to walk down and look at it with me.  He didn't need to because he already knew there was no problem.  WHAT??  Does he think that I just like playing "stack the rocks in freezing water and mud"?  I've got nothing better to do?    I go into the house, still a raving lunatic, my husband having no idea what's going on, while I'm yelling the whole recap to him, I see said borough worker walking down our land, I guess he changed his mind, he figured he'd come scope it out.  Without even thinking I go charging back at him, DH following behind, afraid of what I might do I guess!  I only had a few more things to say before letting hub deal with it, at this point my headache had blossomed into a full-blown migraine and I need ice on my head.  Apparantly he acknowledged there was a problem, and said (for the 4th year in a row) that he'd have an excavator come up and take care of it.  Yeah, right. 

You'd think the chaos was done now, right?  Wrong.  DH & I are both on edge, which eventually led to us being on the outs.    He's yelling at me, I'm yelling at him, telling him everything on my mind, it was good in a way because there's a lot I've been holding in that needed to come out.  But, today I feel miserable, I know I said things that needed to be said, and I said them in the least assaulting way possible, but I know that I hurt him, and that hurts me.  I apologized to him today, and he told me that I didn't need to, that I didn't say or do anything wrong, and in reality I didn't, but I didn't want to make him feel bad.

So, consequently I feel like I've been hit by a Mack truck, my head is throbbing, my heart is heavy, and I'm still dealing with all this other crap, and the shop.  I just feel like hiding!

...But at least my hair looks great. 

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Awww, you apologized, and that was the good thing.    Don't let guilt drag you down, because we've all done some crazy stuff when we were stressed out.. 

I usually end up throwing something... 

Lunacy has its place...     *hugs*

Ohh Lord, Maggie! ((((((((((((((((((hugzzzzzzzzz))))))))))))))))))))))))))

You poor thing! Go lie down while I make you some soup, sistah. I'll get to kicking your DH's AND the borough worker's keister's later.    Don't guilt yourself out - both of those suckas got exactly what they deserved.

Try to look on the bright side: your hair looks great and you got to spend some quality time with your mother. Plus, now your drainage issues will be fixed.
Besides, it could be a lot worse. You could be dealing with this AND all of those dilapidated old vehicles of yours. Eh? Imagine facing a day like this in the old sexy flower van.    

Things will get better for you soon, amiga.    Hang in there.

Thank you, thank you, thank you everyone (((group hug)), you're all just to wonderful! 

Wow, so it's been a little while since I've posted, guess I've been busy.   I'll jump right into the hair update, although there's not really much to "update", anyways...

For the most part, I've been back on Pantene for about the past two weeks, the good ol' 2-in-1 stuff.  It just seems to be 'working' for me now, so I do whatever my hair beckons.  I'm not sure what happened with my Alterna, it was working so fabulously but then my hair started protesting it.  It lacked shine, slip and body, and that was not the case at all when I first started using it.  I actually used it again yesterday and it was ok, it's far from bad, I guess I just like the weightless "slip" that Pantene gives me, maybe I'm just a cone-addict.  ???  But, whatever works.  What I've been doing is washing with the 2-in-1 and then putting the Restoratives Breakage Defense conditioner just on the ends & letting on till the end of the shower.  That conditioner tends to be a bit too heavy when used all over my hair, for me anyhow.  A little jojoba oil on the ends when mostly dry, some aloe gel for controlling the bangs, and I'm all set for the day.  Still have the splitz to deal with though...I'm procrastinating...

Sis in law update- her pregnancy seems to be going pretty well so far, she's had some spotting so she's been so worried, but the doc says that can be normal & just to take it easy.  She miscarried her first time, and it started with spotting, so I can see why she'd be so nervous, I'm nervous for her.  She has entered her 4th month now and she's starting to show, I wonder if she can feel it move yet?  I still say girl, and hub's starting to change his prediction to girl too (sure, jump on the bandwagon!), everyone else says boy, but healthy is the most important so I keep praying for her and the wee little one.  Only 5 more months to go!

Not much else to report, which is probably a good thing!  I had two weddings this past weekend, one saturday and one this morning (monday), so I'm feeling pretty zombified.  I feel ready to go home already, and it's only 10:00 in the morning.....but I've been here working for six hours already so I feel like I put my day in!  I worked all day yesterday on the flowers too, only caught about 2 1/2 hours sleep before getting back up to come back to work again *nodding off*, hope I can make it til 4:00!  Coffee, lots and lots of coffee!    *saluting the Folger's can*

Ok gators, 'til later...