Thanks for your gift Maggie. I will enjoy using the pin, pomegrante soap, loofah, and candles. a long bath sounds wonderful. Your note was  sweet.  I will always think of you when i use my gifts.

That is too cool, Magz.  lol @ "marsh" pit 

It was really cool of Jerry to send Misfits gear to be auctioned off for charity.

It's funny that you & your hubby liken yourselves to Jack & Sally. I have a feeling that a lot of couples do that. They're kind of the darker, modern-day Romeo & Juliet, aren't they? Without all the tragedy...
    Everyone I know says that I am Sally (I'll admit I do look & act like her), so I get a lot of NBC gifts.    I've often thought about using Jack & Sally figurines as a cake topper if I ever remarry. Hinging, of course, upon whether I ever find my "Jack." hehe We'll see.

I know what you mean about feeling less clean when you don't wash your hair.    I still can't do that.
    When I've tried using conditioner only, my hair looked even flatter than usual & I wound up having to just put it all in a bun. But not doing anything & just standing under the showerhead for a few minutes, letting cool water cascade down my hair was the worst! My roots remained very oily and that actually causes my face to turn red. It sounds weird, but my skin has a very strange & bad reaction to sebum.    Washing every day is a must for me. So you're pretty lucky if you can get away with it.

Hope work is a lot less hectic for you in the weeks to come. You need a light load after V-day!

Maggie,
I'm so sorry hubby wasn't supportive.  Reading about your Nana brought tears to my eyes, what a loving gift and beautiful memory your song is.  It makes me sad to think about my loved ones eventually passing and I'm sure it was confusing to have her give stuff away.  Personally I think it is awesome and empowering for her to feel ready to go on the journey we all must and to do what she can to take care of her loved ones while she is able.  I hope you'll let yourself cry as much as you need to.  I hope your husband will realize that forgiveness is about him, not her and that being stubborn about it is hurting himself by hurting you.  Good Luck. 

I hope you feel better soon, I think chicken soup is in order!!
Hey, Waiter!

Gawd. WTF is up with your hubby?!

Sorry.  I know that doesn't sound like my usual supportive attitude, but you know what? I've been around the male block a few times and I know how they can be...

Your knight in shining armour one minute, and your archenemy the next. The man of your dreams...and the most despicable, heartless creature to ever curse the earth with his presence. Inspiring right to the soul at times, while other times you swear you've babysat very young children that were more mature.

And isn't it wonderful the way they can go from one extreme to the other at the drop of a hat? Filling your heart and body with unearthly passion...and then turning into a machine so devoid of emotion that you can literally feel a vital part inside of yourself dying. It causes one to wonder whether all of those beautiful moments you've shared were nothing but lies...if they can just turn it off that easily. Honey, I've been down that road so many times, I can't even tell you.

The good news is that this, too, is a phase. It will blow over, and good moments are sure to follow. The bad news is (brace) the memory of how he acted that particular time never goes away, no matter how may times you rehash it, talk it out or try to make him understand where you're coming from. It just doesn't happen.
    You can scold him for his lack of consideration for you, you can come on like the weepy, innocent victim who "only wanted his sympathy & understanding," but chances are, either one will get you the same reaction. He's a man, Magz. And men are MUCH more likely to justify their bad behaviour than apologize for it. That's just how they work.

He has to realize on his own what an immature jerk he's being. Chances are, he won't...but that's not your problem. Just be strong, be yourself & stick to your guns. You don't need his attitude & "issues" about your grandmother adding to your many problems. You dealt with heartache in your own way, without him, before you met him...you can deal with it without him now if you must. Just do what's right for you. That's about all I can say. 

For what it's worth, I do sympathize with your concern for your grandmother. Mine isn't doing very well either. 
    But I agree with Sakina that it shows a definite strength of spirit if she can accept that great transition with grace and do what needs to be done before then...so the people she loves won't have to.

Glad to hear you're liking the DMR line.    I'm back on it myself.

*hugzzzzz* God bless.

FEMALE POWER, YES!

Thank you ladies, you told me exactly what I needed to hear.  I will report that he has not apologized, nor do I think he will.  I haven't asked him to, but I highly doubt he'll offer it up. In his mind it's done with, in my mind it's there forever.  Sux to be him!

He's one confusing lad, I'll tell ya.  One minute he's offering me dinner & wine, the next he's acting like and insensitive boob without conscience or soul.  He keeps it interesting, I'll give him that.

I'll add more to this on monday, right now I've got a headache that could split the world in half! 

Till then!

((((((Maggie)))))), I hope you feel better. Sometimes DHs show love and affection in mundane ways like changing the oil and unclogging the drain pipe.

We love you Mags
Anais

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And then the next minute he wants to have sex. Oh no, wait, that's my husband.

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Oh no, that's ALL husbands!  lol!

I will officially report that there has been no apology and nor will there be.  I've tucked it away in my little mental filing cabinet under "Moronic  Things My Husband Says and Does Without Knowledge of How Obviously Stupid He's Being and Either Really Truly Does Not Realize or Just Doesn't Care".  That file's getting pretty full now, time for a new folder!    So now, on with the rest of my life...

I was pretty down & out for the weekend  .  This usually happens to me after a major flower holiday, I become so run down that I usually end up sick for a few days afterward.  As long as it's afterwards and not before or during, then it's ok!  However, after much rest saturday and sunday I'm feeling much better! 

Hair:  I noticed something really disturbing yesterday.  As I was holding a mirror up to check out the length of my hair (*blush*, yes, I do this every so often, but...SO DO YOU!) I noticed a lot of my very white scalp peering through my dark brown hair.  In the area just below the swirl of where your hair meets.  Immediate panic set in, so I began moving my hair around to see if it's just that one spot or if it's all over.  My hair is pretty thin, well actually I should say that I don't have a lot of hair, the texture itself is not all that thin, but I never noticed my scalp showing through it!!  After much looking I deduced that it is mainly that spot, I think it's caused by wearing a certain hairstyle that I've been wearing pretty frequently lately.  Using one of those "clasp" shut hair clips in that spot.  When I wear those too long my head actually was getting sore in that spot from the clasp trying to slide down and the pulling on my hair it was causing.  It must have been pulling hair out with it!    It wasn't as obvious after I washed and my hair had more body instead of laying flat on my head, but upsetting all the same.  I won't be using that hair clasp anymore, or pinning my hair up in that spot for a long while.  I hope it grows back!!!

Today I clarified with Pantene Purity, and conditioned with Pantene DMR Winter Rescue.  I didn't ACV only because I forgot to bring it in the shower with me and didn't feel like getting back out, brrrrr!  I am wearing my new hairsticks from Lisabelle  , I absolutely loooove them!  I love hearing the little clickety-clack that the dangly plastic flowers make when I move my head!

Movies:  We had the chance to watch two movies this weekend:
   *Saw II:  Pretty good, not a disappointment as a sequel to the 1st.  Kept my attention from start to finish, I still think there was more shock value to the original Saw.  This one was much more "Hollywood".  A good watch, though.

   *Venom:  Also kept my attention from start to finish, there were no lulls, which was good.  Is definitely a far fetched story line, which is refreshing sometimes, I don't always want "reality", imaginative is good.  Deals with the paranormal and Mambo - Voodoo beliefs, a lot of gore, pretty scary.

Also, I finally got to watch "The Full Monte", we recorded off IFC.  What a hilarious film!  It's one of those movies that I know the title so well, but had never seen the movie.  Watching guys try to dance "sexy" is usually a very, very funny thing, Chip & Dales just aren't for me!  I saw a male review once, and once was enough.  When a guy in a cowboy hat and jeans so short that the pockets are sticking out swivels his hips and points at me, it takes all of my being not to shatter his ego with immense laughter!  I'd rather watch a guy working on a roof or doing construction, not dancing!  But, that's just me. ???

I started my new book this weekend, Diary by Chuck Palahniuk.  I like it so far, basically you're reading the diary entries written by a wife who's husband tried to commit suicide, but failed.  He lives as a vegetable in a hospital, and she tells of how she's picking up all the broken pieces day to day.  I just love his writing style, it's so unlike any I've ever read before.  I think I'm going to continue to read all his books before having to find a new author.

Bad news, a few entries back I mentioned that my best friend found out she was pregnant, well she lost it this weekend.  I feel so bad for her, she was just getting ready to tell ppl about it.  She was waiting until she hit the 12 week mark, and she finally reached it, went for her ultrasound only to find there was no heartbeat.  I pray for her comfort.

I'm off now, much to accomplish today!