This has absolutely nothing to do with hair, but I could use some help. As some of you know, my son's wedding is 5/22 (less than 2 weeks away). It is not a big wedding. The invitations went out 6 weeks ago to family and a very limited number of friends.

Last night my friend/neighbor mentions to me that a mutual friend through church and Boy Scouts, who was not sent an invitation, is planning on coming to the wedding and reception!!!!  She knows where and when the wedding is (at our church), and supposedly knows where the reception is. I have not spoken to her in at least 5 months (she has not been in church since Christmas, and our sons are on 2 different continents!)

What should I do?  ??? The dinner count has already been made. Is this not a bit out-of-line for her to assume she is invited, yet has not received an invitation?  All of her information about the wedding is 2nd and 3rd hand.  We can handle her at the wedding, no problem, but what do we do about the reception (with plated dinners)?

How close is your friend who told you about this?  Maybe you could ask her to try to dissuade the univited guest from attending by pointing out that it would be inappropriate, and do it without involving you at all.  I would certainly be willing to do that for a friend in a similar situation... with tact, of course.

Why don't you call the people who want to crash and explain it to them, say you are very sorry, and then invite them to dinner sometime. Then they won't feel so bad and you don't have to worry about uninvited guests.