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joeydog 1992

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Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick
Reply #105 - Jul 13^th, 2007 at 1:15pm

EEEKKK. Okay, here comes a rant that is not about hair or educational!!!

My b-day is tomorrow. I went to get my mail today and found a rainbow of colorful cards...11 to be exact. I thought, as I walked up the driveway, my friends have this snail mail thing down pat to get them all to me on the last mailing day before my b-day. Then I started thinking...wait, other than my family (who I will be with tomorrow) I have already got cards from everyone.

Flash back---if you remember, earlier this week I said I had to go for lunch and one of the people coming I could not stand...in fact, he repusles me.

You got it...all 11 cards are from him!!! Five of them = one from one of each of my own animals, 2 = cards from each of his two, and the other 4 are from him. Gawd.

Look, I know the guy is really rich (at least a million and with his mom going to die before Xmas, a multimillionaire) and that his sister (who is the 3rd best brain surgeon in the world and owns a Castle in Scotland and one in Florida) I could find worse guys...but the fact is...I can't stand him.

We fought 2 nights ago when I told him there has never and will never be anything between us, and he told me ....ugh..."I won't let you go, you are too special." I told him he never had me to let me go but he can't get it. AAAAAHHHHHH

About 3 months ago he came over with a group of my friends. Now I am not confrontational, but after he got to friendly with me in my kitchen in front of our mutual friends...I threw him out of the house with a "Don't ever talk to me again" message.

At 4 in the morning I was woken up by my phone ringing and his name coming up on the call display. I did not answer, but he called every 10 minutes until 7 am when I finally answered. He told me I had hurt him so much he had slit his wrists (are you all getting why he freaks me out yet?). Of course I asked him if he was serious and then called 911 (with no address or anything since I have NEVER been to his house). 911 used his phone number that was on my phone to hunt him down. He ran from the house knowing they were coming and the cops had to break down his door to figure he was not there. The found his massive GI Joe set (covers the bottom 5000 sq feet of his house from what they told me) and asked me if he could be armed. This was a week after the massacre in Virginia so I hardly knew what to say. The cops spent 12 hours looking for him when he suddenly phoned me from home again!!!!

I told this idiot I had to go to the bathroom and ran outside and called the police on my cell. They asked me to go back on the phone with him (he was on hold) and to take my cell so they could hear what I was saying.

He kept on going about how he had now taken pills. His dogs started barking in the background so I told him it was the police and he had to answer the door. Get this...he said no so the police broke down his door....AGAIN and hauled him out of there...btw, the cops told me there were no cuts on his wrists, etc when they took the phone from him and reported their badge number for me to tell 911.

You will loooove this. The cops took him into hospital and he maintained he never told me he was trying to kill himself and they let him go. Thank God 911 had me keep them on the phone while talking to him. They were telling me in one ear what to ask him and I was telling him I had a bad connection so I was repeating what he replied to make sure I had it right. I could have been charged with mischief had that not been happening. I think that is why 911 asked me to ask the cop that took the phone from the idiot to give me a badge number so there was no doubt what I was saying was real.

My friends are trying not to get caught in the middle, but frankly, this guy really worries me and there is nothing I can do. I did put in a court order that he cannot phone me (and silly me accepted the call last night to try to get him to understand I have no interest in him)...but unless he harms me...I cannot stop him sending mail or showing up where I am. I don't like to ask friends to take sides, but I really think they should take enough of a side with me to stop inviting him with us when I am going. He has even admitted to them that he did do all those calls about suicide and they tell me to play nice!!! AHHHHHHHHH.

Oh, by the way, he is married and his wife put him in a psychiatic institute (against his will...which is the important part since lots of people self admit and are fine socially) after he punched her out. Of course, according to his side of the story, he never touched her...gee, why don't I believe him.

Sad part is, this guy makes my hubby look like an angel. My hubby wants a piece of him. I don't think I had better mention this latest violation to my hubby. Hubby might be immature and unthoughtful...but at least he is sane. (and I hate to call anyone anything bad when it comes to mental health, but I don't think the idiot is sane).

I know some of you are going to say to put the letters back in the mail unopened marked 'return to sender' which would have been smart, had I not opened them all to find out who they were from.

Thank you for putting up with my newest rant. This guy is such a piece of work.

JD

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joeydog 1992 Ex Member	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #106 - Jul 13^th, 2007 at 1:20pm BTW, Cadie, can I borrow your 6'4 stucture to take care of the guy for me? JD
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roomtogrow Emerald Offline Posts: 379 Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #107 - Jul 13^th, 2007 at 2:21pm wow jd, stay clear of him if you can. maybe even send the letters back? sounds like he is crazy and dangerous, and at the very least just not the guy for you. as for your birthday-happy birthday. please be safe and maybe hang out with other friends on your big day so this guy doesn't try to come around.
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joeydog 1992

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Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick
Reply #108 - Jul 13^th, 2007 at 3:27pm

RTG, trust me, spending the day with my family...far away from this guy. Also am calling my friends to tell them I am no longer 'playing nice'. When we go out, it is him or me!!!

My day is getting better by the minute. I wish I could talk about what has got me going now...but it is work related and so it is "top secret' Roll Eyes

although, oddly enough I am not supposed to know about it either. Lets say that a sly move is being pulled that would pit me against ... well someone very close to me and because it is 'top secret' this person and I could have ended up in a room arguing against each other without knowing it until we got there since we would never have discussed it outside of work. And we are not talking a friend here, this is a relative and the company knows it all to well. I can't say anymore...just that I am not happy and don't think I can even tell my relative about it since...ya here is that phrase again ... top secret. I love my job...this is the first time I have been put in this situation, but since the last name is famous...guess I should have realized they would use it to their advantage at some point, even though I am not the one that has/had the ability to make the name famous in this field.

Tears...sorry, off subject, I just watched someone play the harp on TV. So romantic and wonderful...Thinking of you K. To be able to produce something that sounds so wonderful...I am just a cold scientist...based in fact, black and white and no artistic ability at all.

Ok, I have rambled enough for one day. Oh well, I guess tomorrow is the start of a new year for me...hope it gets better than it has been this year!!! More to the point, I hope it is not worse!!!!

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Angel Spun

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Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick
Reply #109 - Jul 13^th, 2007 at 5:13pm

Nothing like a man who just can't let go, eh? Tongue

Why oh why don't they ever take NO for an answer? Pathetic...

Anyway, you need to steer clear of this guy. Don't answer his calls, whatever the circumstances. If your friends invite you out, find out if he is going along first. If so, do not go along. Explain to your friends that you'll have nothing whatever to do with this person for your own safety.

If you remove yourself from the situation long enough, eventually he will get bored and move onto another victim. But continuing to take his calls and socialize with him not only encourages his behaviour but also puts you at risk. Just don't do it, hon. Guys can be absolute nutcases and we don't want to see you get hurt.

If he continues stalking you, you might consider filing a restraining order. BUT be advised that if you do so and then agree to see him or willingly place yourself in an area where you know that he will be, you will be in just as much legal trouble as him.

Don't feel like you're all alone in this either. I think that just about every woman has an unwelcome suitor that won't leave her alone. The trick is all in how you handle it. If you really want him to go away, remove yourself entirely from the situation. Don't see him, don't talk to him, don't have anything to do with him, period. As for the cards, that's just pathetic. Feed them to your shredder...and maybe take a self defense class.

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joeydog 1992

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Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick
Reply #110 - Jul 13^th, 2007 at 5:38pm

LOL, thanks Angel.

I have tried for a restraining order...cannot have unless he harms me first. I phoned my friends tonight and say I will not socialize with them if he is here. I am thinking of changing my phone number. It would be a pain in the ...back end...to do an unlisted number but better than deleting 20 messages a day from him.

As for self defense, I have that covered. I have a black belt in karate and in Tai Kwon Do. I have not practiced for years and would not want to meet a REALLY bad guy, but I can still handle him.

As for nutcases, I have had my share. You would think I was a cute model or something instead of a 5'2 nothing. Last year the police arrested a guy who tried to assualt me when I was out running. I mean he got out of his car and tried to ... hump me...thank God my hubby set me up with pepper spray. Funny thing was, I warned all the women that run in my area and he happened to hit on a female OPP officer (who lives 2 doors down from me) next who used my testimony to seal the case. I don't have to worry about him for another year or so.

Here is another one for you. When I first moved here, it was/is a small country neighbourhood where everyone was new and so someone did a little BBQ for meeting the neigbours. This one guy kept hitting on me and so I said "I am not into STD so go away". He showed up at my house the next Sat. You will laugh but I swear this is true. He parked at the end of my 60' driveway, got out of his car and ran up the driveway with a string of condoms in his hand yelling "NO STD, it is good, I am ready for you". My neighbours across the street heard this and started to run over while I just walked into the back yard, where I had the OPP officer and her hubby over for drinks. I was just putting my dogs out front when he showed up. That ended really quickly.

It is soooo good to hear that I do not have 'sucker' or something on my forehead and that other women who are not models (which as I said I am certainly not) have these problems.

You know, there are a lot of good men out there...why can't I find one? Sometimes I am glad I have gotten tooo fat for men to really look at me...too bad my self esteem can't take it and I will be working hard to get healthy again.

JD

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Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick
Reply #111 - Jul 13^th, 2007 at 9:12pm

JD, I'm sorry to say that I've been stalked and had it escalate to the point of a succesful restraining order.

Write down when and where he shows up, and what he says to you if you can. In the future, if he harms you this will be a great help.

I'm sorry you're going through this. It really sucks. Luckily you have caller ID-DO NOT TAKE ANY MORE OF HIS CALLS!

You might want to compose a cease and desist letter(keep a copy for yourself), and then be sure to document all the crap he pulls 'cause he's obviously a control freak.

You deserve to be happy and healthy. It is not your fault these nuts have come after you.

Stay safe! Oh yeah, Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!

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joeydog 1992

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Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick
Reply #112 - Jul 13^th, 2007 at 9:33pm

Thanx Sakina, I am changing my number to an unlisted number tomorrow at 8 am sharp when I can call in to get it. I have already told my family so they will not freak if they try to call before I go to my family b-day party and they cannot get through. They all know they will get a number at the party, and if they are worried, from my folks before that.

As for the mail, I have been told to send back all the card (even though I could not have done return to sender because there was no return address) using the reverse call to get the address and register the envelope saying I wish no further contact.

The game stops right here. Gawd...do women do this to men as much as men do it to us? Like I said, I know there are great men out there...where is mine???

Thanx for the b-day wishes.

JD

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joeydog 1992 Ex Member	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #113 - Jul 13^th, 2007 at 9:37pm JD, I'm sorry to say that I've been stalked and had it escalate to the point of a succesful restraining order. Sakina, I just realized what you wrote...I said I could not get an order unless he hurt me first....I hope you were not hurt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JD
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Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick
Reply #114 - Jul 13^th, 2007 at 10:28pm

I know that in at least some, i think most, places here in the US, all you have to do is prove threatening/stalking behavior to get a restraining order, but I also hope you weren't hurt, Sakina.

This guy sounds like a real piece of work. Frankly, I agree that you should flat out tell your friends, "do not bother to invite me if he will be there. If he is there when I arrive, I will turn around and leave. If he arrives when I am with you... I will turn around and leave." Any friends who refuse to accept your wishes in this matter do not seem to have your safety and best interest at heart.

I pray all goes well for you, and that this... being* goes away and leaves you alone.

*human, man, person, etc. being far to ... nice for this creature which has obviously given up his right to be considered of our species

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Lisabelle Stardust Offline Kami wa onna no inochi - A womens hair is her life Posts: 2797 Southern Ontario, Canada Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #115 - Jul 14^th, 2007 at 5:30am HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
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Blondestorm Sapphire Offline Long hair is so cool! Posts: 228 USA Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #116 - Jul 14^th, 2007 at 8:48am Happy Birthday Joeydog! Yes, that guy sounds like a real nut! You had better be careful of him for sure! Even though he has lots of money, he has even more problems! Be careful! Blondestorm
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Curlgirl64 Stardust Offline Practice Yoga,give and receive Reiki Posts: 2974 Brooklyn,N.Y. Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #117 - Jul 14^th, 2007 at 11:07am Happy Birthday,Jd!!! Enjoy to your hearts content!!
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joeydog 1992 Ex Member	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #118 - Jul 14^th, 2007 at 11:12am Thanx everyone. Going over to the parent's place soon. Just relaxing over coffee an marvelling out have fast time goes when you aren't in a rush to get going!! JD
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Kiraela Diamond Offline Posts: 825 Southern Louisiana Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #119 - Jul 14^th, 2007 at 3:17pm Happy Birthday!
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