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joeydog 1992

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Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick
Reply #150 - Jul 28^th, 2007 at 6:25pm

Lisabelle, Tex and Sakina, thank you sooo much. I was afraid to see what the responses were to my admission. You all validated and understood my disease. I am grateful.

I would love to tell you all more about it...as I believe if there is one thing I can do that is good because of this disease, is spread the word that it is not uncommon to suffer it at least once in you life (in fact, 1/5 Canadians suffer it in their life time once or more). And I, suffering from it so badly, can offer some kind words and support and do know a bit about the meds...both from taking them and from the job I do.

FYI, for you people who might wonder if I can function and be normal with it...I own my house (no parents involved....although I have great folks), I work a great job and make decent money, all my plants live and my animals (all over 14) are healthy and happy. And yes, I have many good friends...and yes...they are all what you would call sane!!!

As for hair...got a pic taken today and the owner of the camera is supposed to send me it. I will post when I get it. Remember, only 21 inches!!! Just going to oil with coconut oil tonight...hair seems to like it...but have to wash after using it. I guess I have not figured out the right amount yet.

Lisabelle, I am going to get the hairpins and will post a pic with the snood once I have done that. Want to get your opinion.

JD

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Kiraela

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Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick
Reply #151 - Jul 28^th, 2007 at 10:07pm

*hugs JD* You inspire me. I've been dealing with depression for roughly 7 years, some months are better than other... but winter seems to be worse for me too. I've been put on meds for it twice, but the first time it didn't help, and the second... made it worse. I still have the scars from that one, actually, mental and physical. After that I figured out I'd have to work it out on my own. I've been miserable these past few days with my semi-self inflicted voice rest... but I will survive this as all other challenges.

By the way, I got the DEEP yesterday, and I'm going to try it tomorrow(wash day)... I'll let you know how it comes out!
ooh, pic! *wants to see!*

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joeydog 1992 Ex Member	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #152 - Jul 28^th, 2007 at 11:01pm as promised:
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Angel Spun Ex Member	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #153 - Jul 28^th, 2007 at 11:43pm Wooooooo JD! What great waves and curls you have! Are they natural? Reminds me of Vannah White!
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Lisabelle Stardust Offline Kami wa onna no inochi - A womens hair is her life Posts: 2797 Southern Ontario, Canada Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #154 - Jul 29^th, 2007 at 11:03am Oh Wow! Love the colour and the waves!
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Kiraela Diamond Offline Posts: 825 Southern Louisiana Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #155 - Jul 29^th, 2007 at 1:28pm oh wow, JD. you have LOVELY hair! very very pretty color, and I love the waves.
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Blondestorm Sapphire Offline Long hair is so cool! Posts: 228 USA Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #156 - Jul 29^th, 2007 at 2:51pm I wish I could see your beautiful picture! My computer will not let me see it. Gotta find another PC. I am sure your hair is very beautiful!!!!! Jim
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joeydog 1992 Ex Member	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #157 - Jul 29^th, 2007 at 5:58pm Thank you all for the compliments. The color is fake (but as close to the pregray color as possible) but the rest is natural. JD
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Curlgirl64 Stardust Offline Practice Yoga,give and receive Reiki Posts: 2974 Brooklyn,N.Y. Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #158 - Jul 29^th, 2007 at 7:58pm great pic!! thanks for sharing!
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roomtogrow Emerald Offline Posts: 379 Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #159 - Jul 30^th, 2007 at 3:02pm pretty waves jd
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joeydog 1992

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Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick
Reply #160 - Jul 30^th, 2007 at 8:48pm

Thanx Curly and RTG. RTG, I was getting worried about you...had not heard from you so long.

Today sucked and was good. 50/50 I guess. Work did a HUGE screw up. Umm, how can I put this in short...Well someone who has only been with us a year did some basic work based on the high level work I was to do. To put it short...she totally screwed up...BUT WAS NOT HER FAULT since she was not trained to do it. It is going to take an evaluation I should have 2 years to do...and yes...our evaluations do take that long...to 3 months. No way I can do it. Will have to talk to boss on Weds when I am back at work. Two problems...a junior evaluater should never had looked at this...to much for them...and second, my work is forcing us to do a 2 year evaluation in 9 months which is impossible...even for the level of my Dad who was #3 in the world...much less me. I don't have the 35 years of experience, etc...

Anyway, this poor junior evaluator...I had to tell her what she did wrong (nicely might I add) so she would learn. (I am going to bring it up at the next staff meeting so this does not happen...a senior evaluator needs to check the work of a junior, which obviously did not happen in this case). She felt so bad she was in tears. I told her I could fix it and all was well and that it was not her fault and I could fix it. I even put my arm around her to console her. Still she is devastated. Poor girl. Short staffing did this to her (and me) but WAS NOT HER FAULT.

On the flip side...while all I said to her was true...it is going to make my job murder!! Yes, I know you are all anti-smoking...but I had to go out and have a smoke and bang my head on the picnic table...better that than hurt her...she REALLY did nothing wrong based on her training. Regardless, without the data I need I have to do a 2 year review in less than 3 months when I should have 24 months. So much for part-time...I will be working at least 80 hours a week overtime. Still, as I said, not her fault..and I did not tell her what it would do to me. She is feeling bad enough. I am mad at the other senior evaluators for not seeing it. They had lots of time to assess her and figure it out...and the mistake was SOOOO understandable...but it would take me too long to explain..so just take my word. Poor girl. She felt so bad she was in tears...but I blame the system...not her. And I spent time explaining that to her and making sure she went home not feeling bad. And she felt sooo bad, that took a couple of hours...but I still think she will not sleep and will feel bad about her understandable mistake....damn, I hate that!!!! MAD this poor girl is going to be upset tonight when it was NOT HER FAULT!!!

As for me, I told my boss that a mistake that should have been caught was missed because the 2/3 (am the 3rd evaluator who was not there) missed it and so the submission would be late. Failure of the senior evaluators to deal with it...which is why we make more than the 'junior' (I put that in quotes because we are either senior evaluator or evalutors...we could not politically correctly call someone a 'junior evaluator"...although that is what I called myself when I was one) caused this mistake. It seems that at my work, the title just means more money, not the responibility of training the new ones...GAWD!! If the seniors will not train the new...how do the new learn...Don't get me going here. Let me put it this way...of the 3 'senior evaluators' I am the newest to the ranks. The oldest (who really has the wealth of knowledge since he has been there for 20 years) says it is not in his job description to do training!!! Isn't that a given ...since in my line of work there are no "trainers". The ones with the knowledge, teach.

Argh. So then the second highest evaluator just tells people to do what they think. Gawd, this is not a moral evaluation, this is supposed to be scientifically based (now do not panick...the SH (section head...or boss) picks up the wrong thought or decisions so the public is safe!!... but that is not her job...that is what the SENIOR evaluators are SUPPOSED to do alone and TEACH the newbies!!!). But this particular senior evaluator figures it is up to the SH to figure out ALL the errors. Hell, ya, we have a higher up to pick out what we miss...but the goal is not to miss anything!!!. And just so you all feel safe...after the SH we go through 2 more commitees to make sure we are safe (each committee comprising of 20 -50 people!!). Believe me...an error on one parties part would be found. As a senior evaluator I might miss things my Sh would see...but that senior evaluators depend on my SH to do it... PISSES ME OFF. She has a whole lot more to do than fix what the senior evaluators missed...Oh I think I forgot to mention, that Senior Evaluators check 'junior" evaluators do before it goes to SH. In fact, as a senior evaluator, even what I do goes to another senior evaluator before it goes to my SH.

Okay, there is my rant for the week. People slacking off!!

As for hair...nothing much to tell. I did my run today at lunch and got really hot and sweaty . I just rinsed and did conditioner... and one thing I love about my work shower is I can take the shower head off and do that really cold rinse (as I can at home) because I cannot stand the cold rinse all over my body....brrrr. Sorry so long today...

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joeydog 1992

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Reply #161 - Aug 1^st, 2007 at 11:21pm

Oh what a day!! Got up at 4 am to go to work. My computer was on since I had done a 12 hour download last night (which did not work by the way Smiley

. Suddenly I hear an email come in and learn at 4:30 this morning that I am a victim of identity fraud. Thank God I have paid all these years for instant reports on SIN, HealthCard and credit card uses. I was able to stop everything by 9:30 am and only lost about $100. Is that cool or what (all things considered).

Anyway...a whole morning on and off the phone while at work and it comes together to me that my predator is my beloved ex. Go figure.

So, being a nice person, I called him and suggested that he come clean, give it up and I would let him go if he agreed to stay out of my life for good. He hung up on me and then sent me harassing emails at work. I had work block his email address (and being in gov't) inform he would be charged if he tried to email again. (oh ya, when I got home I 'blocked him" and then found it odd when I got home again (of course with all this I had to go to a baby shower until 10:30 tonight) I found nothing from LL (or anyone else) but emails from him. Go figure, I blocked everyone BUT him. Duh!!! Blonde moment I guess.

Anyway, to back track to between work and the baby shower...I guess I am a bit of a softy because I decided to call him mom (who he lives with) to tell her she might want to rein (sp?) him in before I had the opportunity to put him in jail. To put it short, she was quite rude to me and would not even let me speak past telling her who was calling.

After I left for the shower she phoned my folks (btw, how is it that the parents are getting involved in a 49 and 39 year olds relationship?). Anyway, it turned out that 5 minutes before I called she found out her 47 year old daughter has ovarian cancer...so maybe 2-5 years to live. Ok, I can see why she was rude to me. She knew me calling meant I was REALLY pissed at her son because I have only called her once before when he ran up my credit cards to $10 000 (in one month) and refused to pay it!!! She paid it.

I have little respect for this woman. That is a whole different story. Not for here and now. I do feel for this woman though...because I DO respect her strength. She had 5 miscarriages, a still born and a child that lived 2 weeks before she adopted the 3 she has now. She lost her husband 12 years ago to brain cancer and Parkinsons disease and her...partner/lover (2 years ago) to lung cancer. She has lost enough!!! To lose another child...gawd... She has suffered more than enough loss.

When she spoke with my folks they explained why I called...which was a whole different story from what my ex gave her when she pulled herself together and asked him why I called. Apparently she broke down into tears... told them she cannot take supporting her 2 children that are over 45 anymore (has been doing that for about 5 years) along with the stresses that they bring when she is 76. I get that. She told my folks she would deal with my ex and be in touch with me within the week. Fair enough. I will wait. Wanted this wrapped up within 48 hours...but clearly that is not practicle for the poor woman. Oh, BTW, she told my folks she had had it with my ex and was coming down on him big. I would like to believe it...we will see.

Now here is the thing. I feel REALLY bad for her about her daughter. I would like to send her a sympathy care about what is happening and apologize that my timing sucked. Even if I don't really like the woman...I feel those things. Would it be wrong to do it? I mean, I genuinely (sp?) feel so sad for her about her daughter and bad that my timing sucked. Do I have to like the woman to express that?

JD

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Sakina Stardust Offline August 2O1O @ the Louvre Posts: 3399 Arizona Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #162 - Aug 1^st, 2007 at 11:27pm Its your good heart showing that you have empathy for her in this difficult time. No, you don't have to like her one bit to feel for her. I say let her know, 'cause she's already surrounded by insensitive people who are her family. Everyone needs to know someone cares.
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joeydog 1992

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Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick
Reply #163 - Aug 2^nd, 2007 at 8:03am

Sakina, thank you. I believe in my heart I should do the right thing...and you have confirmed my belief. One does not have to agree with the actions or beliefs of a person to reckonize a strength (which she must have to have got through all of the things she has) and/or hardships that a person has. I will do the card.

I write again because I did not tell you the good in my day. I said I was at a baby shower last night. The 'mother to be' has been a friend of mine for 8 years. She is a woman that nobody could dislike in the least (unlike me). She had 2 pregnancies...each of which ended up in miscarriage and her spending 3 weeks in hospital and almost dying. So she has adopted a child from Africa. She found out 4 weeks ago she had gotten a son and was to get him this coming weekend. Amazingly enough, I was at her house with her when she found out. And oddly enough (she is also my massage therapist) I am her last appt for therapy on Friday and she leaves on Saturday. I have a funny feeling she might be a bit hyper for my message (sarcasm intended).

So, I went to the shower (remember I am social phobic and borderline agoraphobic) feeling terrified. I met this woman with BEAUTIFUL hair. Now it is not truly Rapunzel length...but getting there and it is so healthy and nice. Which is more, she is one of those staggering beauties (and I don't mean the fading cute...just extremely beautiful). Well, with my low self esteem, I wanted as far from her as I could get!! But, her personalilty was even nicer than her looks.

Anyway, she and I hit it off great!! AND we discovered we had talked on the phone (with her business) and hit it off 1 year ago!! At the end of the night, having found many things in common, but important to this site, a love for long hair. I refered her to LL and I think she will join us soon. But, for my selfish interests...she thought my hair was great and when we were talking she said she usually had her hair up. When I said I wanted to buns and stuff but was not sure my hair was long enough she told me it was plenty long enough and that she would teach me to do neat buns, braids, etc....I am soooo excited. You see, I am a woman that could never learn from reading something...need to see it happen. That is why I was GREAT at labs...not so good at exams...oh well. I made it through school. Thank God in science, labs are worth more than theory!!! Well not quit, but enough to push me up to my grades because once I did a lab I got the theory too.

Anyway, I think she will teach me to do something with my little 21 inches, and if she does that I know she will do pics.......darn, ex took my camera and is being a #@%$. see above journal. Well, hopefully I will get it back and we can get pics up!!!

Ohh a lab on hair ...um...designs? Well you get what I mean.

JD

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Trisha Stardust Offline Posts: 2318 Missouri Gender:	Re: Joeydog's trials to grow hair when sick Reply #164 - Aug 2^nd, 2007 at 10:24am JD, I think sending a card to your ex MIL would be a kind gesture and she would probably think the world of you for doing it.
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