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Trisha Stardust Offline Posts: 2318 Missouri Gender:	Re: Trisha 2008 Reply #240 - Jul 3^rd, 2008 at 10:27am It may depend, too, on factors such as family history, La Diosa. If you even have what's called a "weak history" of breast cancer, then go ahead and take your doctor's advice. A "weak history" is an aunt, like I have, or another female relative, other than a mother or sister.
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Re: Trisha 2008
Reply #241 - Jul 3^rd, 2008 at 10:47am

Thursday 3 July 2008
Hair: I'll be glad when the front part of my hair gets long enough that I don't need a barette. Hubby measured my hair this morning, while wet as usual, and my length is still at 20"--same as last month. Which means either my hair has not grown one bit, or he measured incorrectly last time. *shrug*

Other: My daughter is here, my daughter is here!!! Cheesy

Can't wait until she's back here permanently--shouldn't be too much longer.

Today is my Friday, since tomorrow the university is closed for the Independence Day holiday.

My stepson's car passed inspection, is licensed and insured, which means he's totally mobile! Now we don't have to ferry him everywhere, thank you God! One more step towards him moving out...

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Reply #242 - Jul 7^th, 2008 at 10:57am

Monday 7 July 2008
Hair: Nothing much has changed.

Other: Had a horrible 4th of July, the worst I've ever had. It involved me yelling to be heard over my stepson, who speaks in an annoyingly LOUD voice. The family was sitting around the table, eating lunch. My husband sat to my right, and his son sat on his right. My husband wasn't feeling too hot and asked me if we had any aspirin. Right about that time, the stepson started laughing and talking super loud to his grandmother, hubby's mother, who was seated to his (stepson's) right--and no, she's not hard of hearing. In order for my husband to hear me, and remember, he was sitting right next to me, I had to yell. I wasn't yelling *at* stepson, but he took my raised voice personally (because he takes EVERYTHING personally) and left to meet a friend. He had planned to do that anyway, but his childish attitude simply ruined the rest of the day for me. I'm so sick of him, and I know that's bad of me to say. What's worse is that his father feels the same way; he's sick of his own son. That boy is simply 180 degrees different than us. --Everything from personal hygiene to work ethic to spiritual mores. All of us, his father and I, his grandparents, have done what we could to help him in life, and he just takes it all for granted. Aside from his biological mother, stepson is THE most ungrateful person I know. He just assumes that there will always be someone around to pick him up, so to speak. He'll be 26 next month in August, so guess what? GROW UP. Stand on your own two feet and stop mooching off of everybody. One good thing is that stepson now has wheels, so he can just ignore us altogether (since he doesn't need us to chauffer him around anymore). If he functioned like a normal human being, he could save up enough money to have his own place by September. But, then, if he functioned like a normal human being, he wouldn't have had to move back in with his parents. Mm hmm.

*sigh* Sorry, I just had to get that off my chest. I, we, are so tired of having to deal with him. Okay, deep breath... in with the good, out with the bad, in with the good, out with the bad.

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Re: Trisha 2008
Reply #243 - Jul 7^th, 2008 at 2:09pm

Whoa, whoa, whoa, Trisha. Whoa. Just hold on a second. I am 28 and I live with my parents. Actually, I've had to move back in with them twice for financial reasons and I am far from not "functioning like a normal human being." I've worked at my current job for over 3 years now, I have a car that is only 2 years old which I have been financing myself, I pay the water bill for the entire household and I have responsibilities and obligations just like everyone else. I also happen to live in one of the most insanely expensive states in America, where very few people can afford to live by themselves.
    My sister is 24 and has never moved out. But she works, goes to school (she's training to be an RN), and also finances her own car. And that's just the way it is for now.

Now, I have known a few people (guys, go figure) who lived with their parents scott free. Didn't work, didn't go to school, didn't pay rent, didn't help with bills or anything - just mooched off of mommy & daddy without putting out any sort of effort whatsoever. But it doesn't sound like that's what your stepson is doing, so he's at least a step above that. It also doesn't sound like you're the sort of parent who would tolerate that. So good for you.

It does sound, however, like he's a loutish little punk with a lot of growing up to do. Have you ever suggested that he join the military? It can make quick work of boys like him. There's also the Peace Corps...or a monastery. 
Or you want I should just "take care of him" for yaz?  

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Re: Trisha 2008
Reply #244 - Jul 8^th, 2008 at 2:01am

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A "weak history" is an aunt, like I have, or another female relative, other than a mother or sister.

That would be me then. Cry

Oh well.

Anyway, sorry about your holiday. Hopefully, he'll be gone soon...to his own place...not knocked off by Angel. Grin

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very few people can afford to live by themselves.

Angel: I didn't know that. I always thought that in a city where the price of living was high, that the average pay rate was high too.

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Reply #245 - Jul 8^th, 2008 at 11:42am

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Or you want I should just "take care of him" for yaz? Grin

I'll take this door, Monty!! Wink

Let me clarify some things about my stepson. He could very well afford to live on his own IF he chose to do the right thing. He's always been fairly lucky at landing decent paying jobs. But instead of taking care of business first, i.e. paying bills, buying groceries, he chose (chooses) to smoke pot and play video games. This is part of what I mean by functioning like a normal human being. Normal people KNOW that business comes before pleasure. It stinks, but that's reality. And since reality is not always pleasant, he has trouble dealing with it. I believe video games appeal to him because, in the game, if something goes wrong then all he has to do is push the reset button. Well, sorry, but real life doesn't have a reset button.

He shuns good/practical advice because, pee-shaw, that's no fun/it's too hard/I don't want to. Besides, won't there always be someone around to clean up the mess he's made? In the past 3-4 years he's been given three good used cars, no strings attached. He's ruined and/or lost all three to (a) issues that could have been prevented with routine maintenance or (b) title loans.

A loutish little punk with a lot of growing up to do? Indeed; the nail has been hit on the head. He has spoken with an Army recruiter in the past year or so, but would need to lose at least 50 pounds before even being considered. He has a big problem with authority, so I'm not convinced he could cut it one day in the military (although I think it would be good for him).

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Curlgirl64 Stardust Offline Practice Yoga,give and receive Reiki Posts: 2974 Brooklyn,N.Y. Gender:	Re: Trisha 2008 Reply #246 - Jul 8^th, 2008 at 4:16pm Pot? Video games? Not paying bills first and being responsible? Trish,are you sure you have YOUR step son and not C's son there re incarnated? Sounds just like J!!!
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Trisha Stardust Offline Posts: 2318 Missouri Gender:	Re: Trisha 2008 Reply #247 - Jul 8^th, 2008 at 4:20pm
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Reply #248 - Jul 8^th, 2008 at 4:21pm

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Angel: I didn't know that.  I always thought that in a city where the price of living was high, that the average pay rate was high too.  

La Diosa: Oh, you are just too precious. Because the cost of living is higher, the pay rate is a little higher too, although not proportionally. However, my dear, you're forgetting the population part of the equation. So many people live in CA that the real estate market takes advantage of it and hikes housing costs through the roof (pardon the obvious pun). Real estate in CA has been a joke for many years, and many current homeowners could not afford to buy their own homes now for what they would sell for. Rent is even worse. So the solution for most people is roommates. Oh, what fun.  

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He has a big problem with authority, so I'm not convinced he could cut it one day in the military (although I think it would be good for him). 

Well, first off, let me say that the military loves to sink their teeth into kids like him. They prey on that kind of attitude.
    Secondly, good heavens. If I was that child's parent, or even stepparent, I would not have him living with me. Ever. Period. He should be living with whichever parent raised him to behave as he does.  

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Trisha Stardust Offline Posts: 2318 Missouri Gender:	Re: Trisha 2008 Reply #249 - Jul 9^th, 2008 at 9:16am Quote: He should be living with whichever parent raised him to behave as he does. I think so too! But stepson knows that his bio.mother is always broke, so he runs to us. This will be his last time staying with us. Period.
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Angel Spun Ex Member	Re: Trisha 2008 Reply #250 - Jul 9^th, 2008 at 11:07am Mmm hmm. That's what my mother would call "too bad, so sad."
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Re: Trisha 2008
Reply #251 - Jul 10^th, 2008 at 10:51am

Thursday 10 July 2008
Hair: No-wash day; hair is up in a ponytail.

Other: I don't know why, but nothing is going right at work today. For two hours now I've been trying to create what SHOULD have been a couple of simple queries. But no... Maybe something is out of alignment in the universe or whatever, but it's really starting to pi$$ me off. Angry

I guess instead I'll go to work on the gi-normous stack of course evaluations somebody dropped off last week. *sigh* I'm so ready for this whole freakin' year to be over.

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Angel Spun Ex Member	Re: Trisha 2008 Reply #252 - Jul 10^th, 2008 at 4:28pm Quote: I'm so ready for this whole freakin' year to be over. Amen, sister.
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Re: Trisha 2008
Reply #253 - Jul 15^th, 2008 at 2:31pm

Tuesday 15 July 2008

Hair: Everything's fine.

Other: Saw my doctor this morning for my last official 6-month check up related to my cancer from 2003.

All is well. I won't get the results from my CA125 test for a couple of days, but I'm sure it'll be normal.

The weather here is hot, humid, and nasty--typical Missouri summer... And I hate it. Tongue

Can't wait for Autumn!

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Angel Spun Ex Member	Re: Trisha 2008 Reply #254 - Jul 15^th, 2008 at 4:15pm Quote: Can't wait for Autumn! I hear ya, Trish! And congrats on the good results! Sounds like you have successfully beaten this whole cancer thing. And you're the first person I know who has.
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