What Galadriel said.

There's nothing wrong with just being happy with what you have if it's working. If it's treating your hair like the precious, wonderful gift that it is, then it looks like your hair has truly found its soulmate(s).

Consider the alternative....where you're not satisfied with anything you try, you find flaws in each and every product out there, which only makes you more skeptical and scrutinizing of anything new.    Sadly, that's the boat I'm currently in.

Just because you're not doing anything "special" doesn't mean you're not doing anything good. Just go with that until something changes.  

No prob, silvermane. You deserve it. 

Hi, Silvermane.  I suggest that you get your curly hair cut by someone who also has curly hair.  It has always made a difference for me.  I have never gotten a bad hair cut or trim by someone who also has curly/wavy hair.
If you want the ends to be evened up, well you'll have to accept that length will be lost.  It will grow back,  of course.  I have been getting my ends trimmed every 10 weeks.  I think it may be more of an issue with us curly/wavy girls 'cause our hair type is naturally more dry.
I'd go for the reshape and then focus on regular deep moisturizing treatments and oiling the ends.  Then with regular trims the ends will be good and your length will come with time.
So there's my .02. 
Good Luck!!!!!

Silvermane,
I have the best results with coconut oil, but that seems to suit my hair.  Sweet Almond is great for skin, putting in the bath and as a carrier oil for EOs.  Personally I don't like it for my hair.
I say try it on your hair and see how it works for you. 

I oil my hair at night on the night before I wash.  I use an Ayurvedic oil that's a blend of sesame oil and brahmi herbs.  I warm it up and put the oil on my scalp.  I sleep with my hair in piggy braids (every night) and oil the ends of the braids.  Then I through a towel over my silk pillowcases and nighty night.

Every two weeks I use Ouidad's Deep Treatment now so I don't oil as often as before.  With the regular trims this seems to work for me.  I still get splits from when I used to color my hair, so I've got some damage although in general the deep moisturizing has my hair in pretty good shape.

Good Luck!!!

Welcome back, silvermane. 

Sorry to hear about your mother - I hope she gets better soon.

I totally understand your feeling down and all of the hair frustrations that seem to go with it. My hair is really frizzy right now, too. Either broken hairs or new growth...or maybe both? And they all seem to want to stick out at the same time, which is, of course, the hottest hairstyle ever! 

If all else fails, you could try a contained style and just slicking the frizzies down with aloe vera gel.

Hopefully we'll both come out of our respective "funks" soon. Remember, without a few clouds, there could be no rainbows. Hang in there.

Glad to see you back!  Sorry life has been so tough on you.  Hang in there.  I've always said - don't do anything drastic when you are in a "funk". 

This time of year I also have a "halo" of little short hairs.  Aloe vera gel or jojoba oil work well for me.

Angel: are you feeling any better yourself these days?  I hope so!

BB:  Thanks for your support.  You always seem to know just what to say!

Juri:  Thanks for the hugs!

The general funk hasn't gone away, but I'm happier with my hair.  It's feeling softer and looks a little brighter.  I still need to get it trimmed, probably at least an inch or so.    My Mom is getting better a little bit at a time, but it's hard for her to be patient with herself, and I find it hard to be patient with her impatience 

I think I need to start exercising.  Seriously!!!  My dear son is always gently nudging me to get on my rowing machine and get going! He tells me it will cheer me up. He is a rower and is presently training to try to get into the Olympics.  He's never come up against someone who is so full of excuses, so it's a bit frustrating for him, but he's very patient with me... and persistent!

My other son has decided to be a long-distance truck driver.  After financing five years of college, my husband and I were a little upset at his choice, but I've got to say that I've never heard him so excited and happy about what he is doing.  And he still has his degree if he ever wants to do something that needs one. I'm real proud of him and I think he'll be good at this.  He's invited me to come along on a run with him some time, and I can't wait!!

Looking back over what I've written makes me realize how good I've got it.  If I could only get out from under the weight of gloom that has a hold on me, I might actually enjoy it!